Feb. 2, 2023

Confidence Coaching with Kim: Stop Making Excuses & Think Bigger About Your Life

There are steps you can take right now that will start you on the path toward changing your life forever

Blythe is a stay-at-home mother of three who has big dreams, but she doesn’t know how to achieve them. This week on the show we’re going to discover what her dreams are and how she can start moving toward them. This episode is for anyone who wants to change your life for the better but doesn’t know how to start. Buckle up, because I’m confidence coaching Blythe so that she can stop making excuses and start leveling up her life. 


In this episode

  • Why it's easy to feel trapped and dissatisfied with your circumstances
  • How passions can feeds the soul
  • What leveling up your life and finding your purpose looks like
  • Excuses we make for ourselves that prevents us from pursuing our dreams
  • How to use fear rather than let fear stop you
  • How to let go of excuses so you can level up your life
  • Then we end by “Digging for Gold” 



Here is my favorite quote from this week’s episode. I know so many people can relate to this:

"I'm so fearful that I'm doing the wrong thing, that I don't pursue the right thing."- Blythe


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*This transcript was auto-generated*

Kim Gravel: Coming up on the Kim Gravel Show, how much do you beat yourself up, sis?

Blythe McMahan: Every day, all day.

Kim Gravel: And what are some of the things that you say to yourself over and over again inside? That nobody hears you.

Blythe McMahan: You're not good enough. You're not who God has called you to be.

Kim Gravel: We'll get to the healing part in a minute. Keep going.

Opening Introduction: Let's just go on and spill the tea. This is The Kim Gravel Show. This is one of the realest persons I've ever met in my darn life. You gotta watch this. My mission is to encourage every single woman, we're here to lift y'all up. There's no one more effective than moms. You mess with the bull. You going to get the horns. I need coffee. I need Jesus and I need therapy. If you can bring a smile to people's faces, why would you not? We love our kids. We love our husbands. What a blessing. We're gonna dedicate this to you in finding your superpower. Okay girl. True confidence is knowing who you are and why you're here.

Kim Gravel: Hey y'all, this is the Kim Gravel Show and this season we are leveling up our lives and stepping in to our purpose, our calling, and we're gonna do that together. This episode we're gonna call it Stop Making Excuses and think bigger about your life. So if you're ready to level up, this is a perfect episode to tune in and listen because for many of us, living a big life is scary.

And I think the excuses that we make, we make from fear of it actually really happening. I know excuses for me. Are habitual because when you look on social media and you, you hear all these inspirational, motivational things, it it, it can get exhausting cuz they're like, work harder, you know? Be smarter, take more time for yourself.

And it's almost like this to-do list of things that you have to do to be peaceful, happy, and live a big life. And you're just like, well dang, I can't do one more thing. I'm exhausted.

Zac Miller: Yeah. That's that toxic positivity, right? That's that like,

Kim Gravel: well, yeah. I mean, what they're saying and what even I have said is the truth.

It's not that it's not true. You do have to work hard. You do have to do, you know, the hard yards and work and have the experience, but at the same time it should be pleasurable. It shouldn't always be this. To live a big life and live your purpose shouldn't be hell. And I think what happens is we put so much expectation and pressure in, in just harsh criticism on ourself to the point it paralyzes us.

It makes us immobile because we think if we have to do one more thing, And then not to mention the insecurity that surrounds, how could I live a big life? What have I got to offer? So this episode we're gonna dig in with life. Someone who says that she struggles with this idea of living a big life, who she says she makes excuses for herself and not moving forward in her call.

And we're gonna hear how she walks through this in a very real way. But if you are watching right now or listening right now, and you want more out of life, I'm here to tell you you can have it. You don't have to clean yourself up. You don't have to fix yourself up. You, you don't have to do any of that.

You don't need to be fixed. You're not broken. We live in a broken world, but you're not broke. So this episode is for you if you want a big life. You can have it. It's yours for the taking. We're gonna talk about how you can pursue your passions, follow your dreams, and how to find your purpose right now.

Today we're gonna be talking to Blythe McMahan. She has been a listener of our show for a while, and she has said that she wants a big life and, We're gonna talk to her tonight to find out A, why does she not have it? And B, how can we get her there? So everybody, welcome Blythe McMahon. Thank you so much.

Okay, Blythe, I'm telling you right now, you've gotta just start us off, kick us off and tell us your nickname for yourself.

Blythe McMahan: Wow. It's brunette with a booty.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Yes. And what kind of booty is it? You know, cuz all booties are not created equal. It's the good kind. Right.

Zac Miller: I like that you're starting with like the, the hard-hitting questions, Kim, can I, I'm just saying back off the bat,

Kim Gravel: Booties are back.

Blythe McMahan: The people need to know Zac.

Zac Miller: Okay. life is odd.

Kim Gravel: You know, I'm just saying I'm gonna use this. Trust me, I'm going somewhere with this brunette with a booty thing. Because I remember when we were talking to you earlier and you said that I thought, oh, I will never forget Blythe, the brunette with booty

I mean, that's a bbb, that's a triple threat. B, right there. Yes.

Blythe McMahan: Well, it is round.

Kim Gravel: Oh, go on now. Go on with it. You've started it. Keep it going.

Blythe McMahan: It's round, it's voluptuous and it, it lets people know you're in the room. Let me just tell you,

Kim Gravel: they see you coming and going, don't they?

Blythe McMahan: That's right.

Kim Gravel: All right. Listen, Blythe, the reason I had you come on the show tonight, and I thought you were just the perfect person to be our guest tonight.

Let me give you a little background about Blythe. We know that she's got a good booty. We know that she's Brunette. Her husband is a fifth generation farmer. You're in Oklahoma. You're a stay-at-home mom. You said you just realized that you'll be on the farm now for the rest of your life.

Blythe McMahan: Well, so like you said, my husband is a fifth generation farmer and I've just kind of had the realization that every woman in this family has put their entire heart and soul and everything into this farm, and I want to too, but I, I don't think that I want to live and die on the farm. I think that I want to live in a calling that God has asked me to live for, but also support my husband and my children in that way.

But I think there's something more for me.

Kim Gravel: Tell me what you're struggling with. Get real with me about, you know, I have two kids too. I know you're 33 years old and I think I know what you're trying to say, but I don't wanna put words in your mouth. Tell me exactly what you mean when you say there's.

Blythe McMahan: I feel a little trapped. I feel a little bit like I have have been put into a box. And I'm not. I'm not good that way. I want to be, I wanna be out there in the world and I wanna make people happy. I wanna make them to feel good about themselves. I wanna bring people to Jesus. I wanna be creative. And I just feel like I have been put into this box where I am a farm wife and a farm mother, and I love it.

I do. But I just feel like God has called me to maybe put my personality out there into the world.

Kim Gravel: Okay, so let me just, I, I love this. I love how you're getting transparent. You're really getting authentic now, and you can this like, again, this is a safe place. I like it what you just said, but I have one little rub.

One thing that you said that I was like, I don't know. Okay. I don't know. I don't know. When you said, I feel trapped and then you went on to describe it and you said, and I love it, but. We opened the show talking about that you're a brunette with a booty , but when you're telling me your situation right now, your butt seems really small.

You said I love it, but that tells me that what followed after that? Diminished, diminished, diminished. So what you're doing is, is you're saying, I'm married, I'm living on the farm. I have three kids. I feel trapped. I'm here. I gotta love it. But see, I need you to have a bigger butt, but mm-hmm. , God has got more for me, babababababa, blah.

They both can coexist in the same sentence, just as powerful and just as strong. Yeah. So if you going be. Blythe with the big brunette booty. , I gotta have a big butt, right? So tell me when you said, but I don't think God's got more for me. Why is that the lesser for you?

Blythe McMahan: I think that I have taken on my husband's life and then I have been kind of taught you need to be content in the life that you're.

and, and I do need to be content. It is true, but I think that I've, I think that I'm not using the gifts that God has given me, to pursue the dreams that I've always wanted, and I'm not, I'm, and I don't even know exactly what those dreams are, but I know that they've been put inside of me and I'm, and

Kim Gravel: what does that feel like? What does that feel like? Because look, I've got some good news for you, okay? You can do both and do it and kick booty doing it with y'all booty. Okay? , you, you're gonna be able to do both. And what I wanna do in this show, you don't understand how many people listening right now who are feeling life the same way.

But I loved it when you said, and I really don't even know what that is, but I know there's something inside of me to do, right? So let's drill down what that would look like if that dream came to pass or what that dream would look like. Let's, let's get a little deeper in that. Okay. Tell me about some of the things that you have done that really feed your soul.

From a personal purpose and calling point of view, not being a wife or a mother, which is so important, it's probably the most important job you have right now is being that mom. Yes, yes. But wanting more, wanting a bigger dream life for yourself than what you're currently in. That doesn't make you not content.

You're just not satisfied with that.

Blythe McMahan: Oh, thank you, Kim.

Kim Gravel: That's a difference. So this is how we start thinking bigger and broader and, and because bigger means more encompassing, all encompassing, it doesn't mean I got to ditch this to get this.

Blythe McMahan: You're gonna make me cry.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Blythe, I'm serious. And I'm not trying to preach to you right now, and I'm, I'm coming up Blythe Street in a minute to ask you two more questions. But, but this is what I'm talking about. Blythe, you are thinking about life a la carte.

You're thinking when you go to a fancy restaurant. Now, I had never been, cuz I'm married to the cheapest man in the free world. Okay. So we don't, we, you know, it's Taco Bell or you know, Shane's Rib Shack for us.

Zac Miller: Wait, wait, wait. We have to fact check that Kim. He's so cheap. You've never been to a fancy restaurant.

Kim Gravel: Come on, if I have, I don't remember people, okay, but just hang with me. But when you go to these fancy restaurants, I have heard. I've heard that you sit there Blythe and it's $45 for a piece of lettuce with a little ranch dressing on it. It's $72 for a little thing of french fries. You ain't get but three or four and it's an a carte meaning you gotta pick and choose, right?

Life is like an all you can eat buffet. You can go back as many times as you want and try as many things as you want until you fill up an overflow. Okay? So we gotta switch your life from thinking like an alacarte menu, and we got to switch it to thinking like an all you can eat buffet.

Because when you were telling me earlier, I'm a farmer's wife, I've got kids and I love it, but I feel like there's more for me in. That's how I knew. You think you've gotta pick and choose. So if, if you were not a farmer's wife and a mother, what would you be doing?

Blythe McMahan: When I was younger, I made so many videos with my brothers and sisters and we just were in front of the camera and that's where we shined and that's where we had like our, fun time.

And so, I think if I was not. A wife on a farm, I would probably be trying to mc as many pageants as I could. I'd be trying to make videos online. I would want my brothers and sisters involved, in everything I was doing because they're incredibly ha in, in, talented too. And, I kind of go back to the Partridge family because we're everybody, everybody has something they can bring to the table, and so that's, that's kind of where I've always seen myself is like, I, I find myself at 33 thinking, man, I, I think we could have, I think we could have done something with our talent.

Kim Gravel: Hmm. Okay. Okay. I'm, I'm, I'm, I've made an observation as you were telling me this, that came so freely and naturally to you, and you had more joy talking about that than you've had the entire interview that we, the entire time I've been talking to you. Yeah. Okay. So there's something to this. You what?

Keep going, keep going, keep talking, keep telling me

Blythe McMahan: I just. I wanna make sure, I want, I want people to be happy. I want them to kind of be able to escape from their lives that maybe they're living and know

Kim Gravel: you want people to escape their lives. Why?

Blythe McMahan: Because I kind of want them to see the beauty that

I, I kind of want them to see the beauty that's before them. I don't, I, I mean, I want them to. I want them to escape because I know how life is. I know it gets down, you get down and you get burdened. But if you see someone entertaining you and someone before you, you just, you just, you kind of forget about all that.

Kim Gravel: How do you know what it feels like to escape and why? Tell me why the word escape came to you.

Blythe McMahan: Um, I had a theater coach in, high school and his main, objective when we did a play. in high school was to make the audience escape their lives for one hour and focus on what you were doing and to entertain them and to make them feel happy.

And so I think that've, I've always carried that with me.

Kim Gravel: I, I think it's an interesting word because I think we all are looking for escape. I think we're all looking for something to lighten the. . And that's what I keep hearing. You save life. Just meeting you. The last time I met you, I've gotta tell you, you touched me to the core.

A, because you were so vulnerable, and B, because you were so ready, you're ready for this next step. You're ready to level up your life. I think you, I think you just don't know how to do that yet. Would you agree with that?

Blythe McMahan: I would absolutely agree with that.

Kim Gravel: If you did know what it would be, tell me if you did know what it would be the next step for you to level up your life, what would it look like?

Blythe McMahan: When, I am in a room with my sister and we are just off the cuff going back and forth with each other. And I used to sell, I used to sell some, signs and I'm, I have, I feel like I have really good ideas. I'm just not able to get them. You know, I'm not able to, I don't know. I I'm not able to sell them.

Well, I'm just like, I, I've got the idea, but how do I go about that? So, okay. We were doing videos and so we would do videos online and we would get, like, I, we had a group and we'd just do it in our group and, we'd get feedback like, you girls, I just come here to watch you girls. Perform. I just come here to watch you girls banter back and forth and, and we'd get like, I don't know, a, a, a couple thousand views.

And it wasn't a lot, but it was, it was enough that Lo was like, oh my gosh, we should keep going. I don't even wanna sell the signs anymore. I just wanna hang out with my sister and just have banter back and forth. My sister is Allisyn to a T.

Kim Gravel: Oh God, help you, jesus.

Blythe McMahan: she and Kim, you're gonna, you're gonna laugh at this, but she's in the room with me. She is

Kim Gravel: Well, she needs to stick her head in. Stick her head in the room right now.

Blythe McMahan: Oh, she's, she's ready. She is ready.

Carrie: Yes. I'm a natural blonde.

Kim Gravel: Oh gosh. This is getting good. Blythe. Okay. Okay, Blythe. That, that was so perfect. Okay. Blythe, let's talk about excuses. What are some of the excuses you make to not just sit down and do a few videos, if not just for anything, just to do it for yourself. What are some excuses you make to not let, to not get, to not live this bigger life that.

Blythe McMahan: Um, who do I think I am?

Kim Gravel: Oh, oh, oh. That's a deep one. Yeah. Why?

That's so good. Yeah. So you ask yourself, who do I think I am to do this? Okay. All right.

Blythe McMahan: You live in a small town. No one has ever, I, I just feel like no one's kind of, I don't there this ever, people are successful, but I just feel like you live in a small town.

People are judging every move you make. And, who do you think you are to, to try and, level up your life? Who are you? Who, who do you think you are that people aren't gonna judge you? And, and I don't know, it kinda makes me wanna cry a little bit.

Kim Gravel: Cry, then get it out. This is why I wanted to have you on the show.

Who do you think you are? That's such a big one. What's some more,

Blythe McMahan: you live in a tiny town in northwest Oklahoma. What makes you think that you can make it big? What makes you think that? Well, and this is kind of all, it kind of all comes back to, to the, what I was saying before,

Kim Gravel: There's more.

Keep going. You're getting there. You're getting there. I can tell you, I can tell you've never had to do this kind of, what I call digging for gold. I call this digging for gold because a lot of times we live on the surface here. Yes. And we think, we think we know what's going on and we think we know what's stopping us.

And we think, but once you start drilling down and drilling down, you start really getting to the meat of it. So we're digging for gold here. So keep talking, keep telling me which, how you feel about this and your excuse.

And let it go. Let it go. This is a safe place.

Blythe McMahan: I have always been a people pleaser and I worry about what people think of me. I want them to, I want them to like me. I want them to be happy when they walk into a room where I am and I will put myself on the floor. I will give you the shirt off my back to make sure that you feel.

Um, and I just feel like I've kind of, kind of burned myself out a little bit in that area because I kind of want something for me.

Kim Gravel: You have no idea what is happening right now in your life right this second.

Blythe McMahan: I guess I just, um, going back to childhood and stuff, I just, I was a, a middle child and this typical middle child. I know. I know. But, I was kind of like, I was always happy and I was always content and there was other, People kind of paid attention to the other siblings. And maybe that's just my perspective, but, I always felt a little lost in the middle a little bit.

Like, Hey, look at me, look at me. And so now I just kind of feel that same way as an adult. Hey, look at me. I, I am, capable of doing something other than just being a mom.

Kim Gravel: Hmm.

How much do you beat yourself up, sis?

Blythe McMahan: Every day, all day.

Kim Gravel: And what are some of the things that you say to yourself over and over again inside? That nobody hears

Blythe McMahan: you're not good enough. You, uh,

You're not who God has called you to be, you're not,

I just feel like I'm not a good mother. Sometimes I yell. I'm loud, I yell.

Kim Gravel: Oh, God. I just, I just yelled two things today that I'm probably gonna go straight to hell for. So don't, don't judge yourself there, but we'll get to the, we'll get to the, we'll get to the healing part a minute.

Keep going. What are some of the things that you say in your head to yourself?

Blythe McMahan: What makes you think that you can act the way you do and receive God's grace at the same time? Um, yeah. I just don't, I don't feel good enough.

I, I don't, I don't, I don't know that I've ever done what God has called me to do. I'm so fearful. I'm so fearful that I'm doing the wrong thing, that I don't pursue the right thing.

Kim Gravel: Sounds like you, you're so fearful that you don't do the right thing, that you just don't do anything. Yeah. Okay. First, first of all, Blythe, I feel like the all you can eat buffet. . It's just the 29 95 away. You know what I'm saying? You just, you just gotta walk in and you just gotta pay for that buffet, and then you're gonna pull up to that table and you're gonna taste every bit of life that you want to, I promise you that.

Do you receive that?

Blythe McMahan: I received that. I had to breathe that in.

Kim Gravel: Now, what we're gonna talk about tonight, and I don't know if we're gonna get to it all tonight, and we might have to have a revisit on this because what you have, what you have shared with us this evening is, is going to touch so many people.

So welcome to your calling, baby because you've just entered, you've just entered it tonight. I just got cold chills from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet.

Blythe McMahan: You were a vessel.

Kim Gravel: Look, I, I don't even wanna talk about me. I'm so into you right now. I can't, I can't get enough of this. America's not gonna get enough of this.

You don't even know what you're doing, and I don't even know if that's what we should talk about right now. So stay with me. What you have done tonight by sharing. Is so powerful in your next step tonight, you have actually laid the excuses out. See that's the thing about fear. People say fear and faith cannot coexist. I don't agree with that, or at least I'm not a psychologist. I'm not a counselor, but I just know from my life lived experience, which has been pretty. major. I've had a lot of life experience. I've had a lot of tragedy. I've had a lot of PTSDs trauma. I've had a lot of rejection. I've had a lot of verbal abuse.

I've had a lot of people say I can't. I've had a lot of people do everything, but I chose to believe in God that I could. Wow. And it's not been easy. Okay. It's not easy. I'm not sitting here promising you a bed of roses. Okay.

But what you've done tonight is you have taken a step and you have faced that fear, and now you've made fear. Your fren me. Now the fear doesn't scare you. Now the fear can ignite you. Okay? Fear can be that fire or that ignite. To that fiery passion that's inside of you that has been there. Look, when I travel around and talk to women, I say to the whole entire audience, how many of you believe you have a purpose and a call in your life?

Everybody raises their hand, Blythe, they put 'em down. I say, put 'em down. And then I say, how many of you know what that is? And crickets, I, no one knows, no one puts up their hand. They don't even do this. They don't even go, ah, they don't even do that. No one, you're not alone. But what you are is very brave to admit what you've admit tonight.

You don't know how many women feel this way, so I've never heard that. It's the truth. You're 33 years old, you're a baby, you're young, you've got your whole life ahead of you. You're not even to the sweet spot of womanhood yet, girl. You're just getting there. You are just getting there. It's coming for you.

Now. This is what we gotta do though. We've got to change that mindset so that you're looking at life different. Right now. You're a mother of three young children. You're a wife to a man who works as can off. I mean, my Lord, there's nothing more important than teachers, nurses, and farmers. and, and, and, yes.

And you know, service workers, police officers, firemen, I mean, I could give you a whole list, but farmers is right up there in the top five. So what your husband is doing is his calling and it is amazing, yes. But you can support him in doing his and also thrive in doing yours. But the thing is, you're beating yourself up in your mind and that ain't nothing but the enemy, sweetheart.

He is trying to get you off of your course. You have a big call in your life. I know you're content and contentment means you're happy and you have a little bit of satisfaction because you have everything you need. That's what contentment means. It means happiness and satisfaction often because you have everything you.

But listen to this, you wanna be satisfied and how you get satisfied. And lemme tell you what satisfaction means. It means the fulfillment of one's wishes, expectations, needs, or the pleasure derived from this. You want the pleasure, the satisfaction of living out what you have been called to. Am I right?

Blythe McMahan: You are so right. You've never, I've never had anyone speak those words, to me and over me. Yeah, you are exactly right.

Kim Gravel: Yes. And I'm doing it. And you need to receive them cuz we're not done. This is gonna be ongoing. I feel like you and I are getting close. Baby, we, you and I. I know exactly how you feel, and every woman listening to this can relate.

You have said you make excuses. You have said you feel trapped. You have said you feel like you are not enough. You have said, who do you think you are? Everything you're feeling is gonna be a catalyst for others to walk through this journey with you. Blythe, you're stepping into your calling now, back to you and your.

Do you want a few pieces of advice, how to get started? So bring your sister in. I wanna see sis .

Blythe McMahan: She, she's so ready.

Zac Miller: Do you have, do you have earbuds? Maybe you could get, do you have earbuds for her? She have any earbuds?

Blythe McMahan: Oh, she just happened to bring a pair, y'all.

Kim Gravel: Well, I'm so glad this happened.

Because Blythe, I'm gonna give you some homework. I'm gonna give you some things to work on. I'm gonna give you small little baby steps, and you and I are gonna walk this journey together. Consider me your mentor.

Blythe McMahan: I've never had one. Thank you.

Kim Gravel: Well, you've got one tonight. Consider me your confident coach and consider me your biggest cheerleader and biggest fan tonight.


Carrie: So I'm barefoot. Thank you, Kim.

Kim Gravel: That's fine. She is Allison. If she's barefoot, all she would need is a red solo cut. She'd be the air, she'd be She with me out.

Blythe McMahan: We've got the solo cut. Yeah, we've got the solo cup now.

Kim Gravel: She had the headphones. I've got my he, I got my earbuds right here.

Okay, Blythe, right now. Right now you gotta introduce your sister because that right there tells me you do have a future doing videos. So who is this beside? Who is the blonde bombshell beside you?

Blythe McMahan: This is my blonde, bombshell of a sister, Carrie Sean Barker . She is an RN.

Carrie: Hello everybody. This is nice of you to pull me outta the corner. You did not have to do that.

Blythe McMahan: Well, she said, I'm not worth you poor pulling me out of the corner.

Kim Gravel: Well see. Oh, perfect then. I'm glad she's here. So, look, you y y'all are gonna be part of my homework. I've got some homework for Blythe. So the, so this is what I want you to do.

You've been so transparent tonight and you have said that you and your sister used to make these videos. So what I'm gonna do is I'm going to, Get you to start making some videos for me. I'm gonna send you both a box full of Belle Beauty. You both are gorgeous. You both are hilarious. You probably, I bet you anything, just talking to y'all.

You're doing impressions. I bet you can do funny stories.

Blythe McMahan: We got some. You've got the accent, that one. But yeah, we'll work on other things.

Kim Gravel: So I want you to start making some videos for me, Blythe. And you know what I'm gonna do? I want, I'm gonna pay you for your time. I'm gonna start putting you in a professional setting.

You gotta start fighting this excuse mentality and you've gotta start taking a step. And it's gotta be exciting. You know? Like, again, I want you to be satisfied. I want you to be fulfilled. That's what satisfaction means. You're content, you're happy, you're satisfied because you have everything you need.

But we're gonna add something to it and give you something that you want.

Carrie: Kim, this is like beyond anything so kind to pour into us like this. I mean, we're just, you know, a couple of hillbillies, literally barefoot hillbillies. And so, but I wanted to say that, like Blythe said earlier, when we're on stage together, exchange in this banter, we get to feel alive and free and we just hope we to let other people feel that way because we do have so much, you know, being a mom, feeling that trap, you feel so alive and called to do what you're, you know, you feel like you're, you're called to do so. Anyway, this is such an amazing opportunity. And are you, are you sure ?

Kim Gravel: I'm dead dog sure. And I wanna tell you, it, it's, it's so wonderful.

I think, I think when you, well, I know because I live it. When you step into what. Have a love for, like you said, when you're on stage and the two of y'all are going back and forth, what does that feel like? Y'all tell me what that feels like?

Blythe McMahan: It feels like. I know what I'm supposed to.

Yeah. It feels like purpose. It feels like I know what I'm supposed to do because when we step on stage, Carrie and I both have said that that is our comfort zone. That is seriously Okay.

Carrie: That is where we are meant to be. Yeah. It's, And And people, we get one laugh, watch out. Because the guns are blazing.

Kim Gravel: Ok. Okay. All right, so here's your homework. I'm gonna give you the box of goodies. I'm gonna send you some makeup. You're gonna do some videos for me. I want you to really think about what you two are gonna do, what you are going to. and how you're gonna deliver it. And I want this process for both of y'all to be spontaneous and fun and very satisfying.

Don't think of it as work. Don't think of it as another big responsibility in your life of something your to-do list. Do I want you to do what you do on stage, baby, where you feel like you're in your comfort zone? And let me tell you something, when you're on stage and the two of y'all are feeling like it's home, That's what purpose and calling feels like.

It's like coming home, oh my gosh. When you put your babies to bed and everyone's fed and, and the house is relatively clean, and you're in the bed and you're turning on whatever TV show or whatever book you're reading or whatever you got going on and you feel home, right? And you feel good, right?

Blythe McMahan: Yes.

Carrie: Fulfilled, yes.

Kim Gravel: It's fulfilled your purpose and your calling feels just like that spiritually.

Carrie: It is the same feeling and it's, it's hard to convey that to someone that doesn't know because they're like, oh, they just like the attention of being on the spotlight and what's wrong with that?

We, we worry about what people think and we shouldn't because whenever, you know what was funny is like whenever we do something together, we're always like, oh my gosh, I said this and you said this.

We did that. Did that, did they take that? Okay. Did that sound okay? Yeah. We do that back and forth before.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Well that's called vulnerability remorse, . That's called, that's called something. That's for a whole nother episode. We'll get there, but right now I gotta get you doing to do, you gotta get going.

Because you gotta start feeling alive again, fulfilled again, and satisfied again, so that you can go another step, okay? That we're leveling up. You can't go from here to here. You gotta, you gotta take one step at a time. So this next step is just getting busy about doing the thing first, because you're gonna find what you think.

A call and a finding your purpose in life is not a job. It's not what you do, it's your why you do. So you're gonna be doing a lot of different things in this call together, separate, you know, your calling is connected for sure. And each of y'all have your own specific calling and, and, and so beautiful that God has you both working together to do it right now.

But we gotta get you doing the thing. Yeah. So the step is I'm gonna send you and, and you love to do videos. That's what you can do that from your home. You're both, you both, I know you're an rn, you work and you, you know, you're a farmer's wife. Y'all working, you've got children, but you're gonna have to carve that time out, if not, but 10 or 20 minutes out of your week to do a little video, 32nd minute, two minute video with this banter going back and forth and watch your purpose, drean life, and your call show up for you.

Blythe McMahan: Kim, that you are speaking into us, and I just thank you so much for doing that. That is so sweet, and I am not kidding you, Carrie, and I love makeup. But my favorite foundation is Hyrabelle by KimGravel.

Kim Gravel: Well, that's perfect.

Blythe McMahan: No, but I put it on myself to look better.

Kim Gravel: Well, you know, neither one of you do.

Cause you both are gorgeous. But when Blythe came first came up and I'm looking at both of them girls know how to beat a face now they can beat a face smack . All right, done and done. Okay, do me two favors. One, I want you to stop saying to yourself, who do I think I am and replace that with?

I'm everything I'm called to be. So whenever you start having those thoughts, so, and they probably go like a rabbit hole. You start with one thought and it's like it starts circling a toilet bowl before it goes. So just replace it. I'm everything I'm called to be. And then number two. Number two, do something every day towards your call.

If it's just planning, I'm gonna do this video and we're gonna call it this and write it down. You have to start stepping into it, letting go of excuse. so that you can level up.

Blythe McMahan: I am so ready. Put me in Coach.

Kim Gravel: Yes. Yes. All right, girl.

Woo. Zac.

Zac Miller: Oh, okay. Kim.

Yeah, that was your right Oprah moment.

Kim Gravel: Okay, well, I'm telling you, I dunno about that right now. , you know, it, it's, it's so lovely to hear someone be so transparent, Zac. I mean, she just laid it out there and it didn't take much. Just a few questions. She's so ready for that next level in her life.

It was just so apparent, and I'm excited to see her journey because I really think a lot of us women feel that way. A lot of people, not just women, I mean, everybody feels like they want more out of life, but are paralyzed to get it sometimes just because of the excuses they that we use or the things we tell ourselves.

Zac Miller: The thing that really resonated the most is when she was talking about how it's like, why me? Right? Like, why do I get to have a bigger life than just being a farmer's wife? Or like, why, you know, I live in a small town. There's a lot of people who sort of have, you know, not to, not to say anything bad about this, but like sort of small town aspirations, right?

They're happy with like the, the thing that they've carved out from themselves here, but

Kim Gravel: Yeah. But you know what, Zac? Everybody wants more. Everybody wants. And, and not from a selfish standpoint, not from like, just collecting more stuff. People want to live out what they're made to do. I think the two biggest, the, the main question I hear everyone talk about, it's not like, you know, people wanna raise their kids well, they wanna have great families, they wanna have their careers, all of that.

But I think the biggest life question is why am I. . And then the second biggest life question is, and what am I gonna do about it? People wanna know why they're here. And so, you know, I just remember my dad. Just remember my dad, he would talk to me for hours. You know, I was just a dumb kid. So dumb. Don't say anything cuz I've grown a little bit.

And he would ask me a question. , and then I would give some surface answer and he would say, why? Because I just don't like pink. Why? And he would drill down the simplest question to become this amazing pot of gold, or this amazing discovery of gold. And he, he would always ask that question, why?

Well, why? every question, every time I'd answer something, he would ask me why. And that's, I call that digging for gold in people. We did that tonight with Blythe. We just just asked the right questions to get her to say some of the things that has probably not ever been said out loud in her life. But those are the things and questions that need to be answered to get to the next level in our life.

So I'm excited to see how all that's gonna unfold, how, you know, these videos are gonna turn out and how she's going to start stepping into her calling and leveling up her life. And I have, I think it's gonna be pretty big. I think it's gonna be good.

Zac Miller: And we're gonna bring her back in a few weeks and we're gonna check in with Blythe and we'll do another coaching session because now you're her confidence coach.

Kim Gravel: That's it. I'm here for her.

Zac Miller: I wanna end the episode with a little segment that I thought up. And I just changed the name just because, this is so perfect. I'm calling it digging for gold with a toddler cuz like, you know, I have toddlers, so I had my kids record a little something for you.


Kim Gravel: Okay. Okay, let's go.

Zac Miller: Okay, Kim. . Okay. Just answer the question, okay? Why do you get up in the morning?

Kim Gravel: Because I gotta get up and raise my family and get on with life.

Zac Miller: Why?

Kim Gravel: Because I have something to do every single day. I have a purpose of being every single day. I'm not only just a mom, I'm a wife, I'm a business owner. I'm a best friend. I'm a sister, I'm a mother.

Zac Miller: Why?

Kim Gravel: Because God made me an individual. He made me someone to encourage and edify, and if I didn't do it, I'd be miserable.

Zac Miller: Why?

Kim Gravel: Because I love people and I love my life. I like living a big life, and I want 'em to see everyone else live a big life.

Zac Miller: Why?

Kim Gravel: Because that's what we're here for, is to live the biggest, best life we can.

Zac Miller: I'm gonna leave it at that, Kim.

Kim Gravel: Yeah. Till next week y'all.

We love you.

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Blythe McMahan: And you look stunning, Kim.

Kim Gravel: Thank you. You are stunning.

Blythe McMahan: No, we're just trying to follow you.

Kim Gravel: No, girl. You look amazing. I'm excited about this.

Zac Miller: And I'm just Mr. Uggo Over here. Okay,.

Blythe McMahan: Oh, Zac, you're gorgeous. You're just gorgeous.

Zac Miller: Oh well. Oh, thank you so much. Oh my gosh. I didn't, I didn't expect that.

Kim Gravel: And we don't see the pimple on your nose. We don't see it. Zac.

Zac Miller: Oh my gosh. I'm out, Kim. That's it. I'm out.