Life Too Busy? Feeling Burned Out? Do THIS

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Kim:

It's so simple. Prioritize and substitute where you can, things that don't matter for things that do. And what matters the most. Watch this. It's gonna tick a lot of people off. It's not your health, not your wealth, not your family. Hey, y', all, it's Kim Gravel here with the Kim Gravel Show. I'm joined by my incredibly handsome, smart Zac.

Kim:

Are you writing this yourself? I'm joined by my incredibly handsome, smart, talented producer. Did you change the script?

Zac:

Wow, Kim, I didn't know you felt that way about me. Thank you so much for reading the script that I wrote for you.

Kim:

You are insane. You know who you remind me of? Alison.

Zac:

What?

Kim:

This is my sister's. This is my. She's rubbing up on you. This is my sister's philosophy. If nobody gonna encourage you, encourage yourself. Sometimes you got to toot your own horn. Toot, toot. You are becoming a toot, toot, toot, toot.

Zac:

Baby, look, I so rarely get to toot my own horn. The show is the Kim Gravel Show.

Kim:

Toot it and, you know, be a tooter.

Zac:

Toot it loud.

Kim:

Toot it loud. Okay, anyway.

Zac:

Yep. So, yes, thank you for all those compliments, Kim. I'm just, like, really overjoyed that you said that about me.

Kim:

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Zac:

It's 103 degrees here right now. Kim in Sacramento.

Kim:

But you don't have humidity.

Zac:

No.

Kim:

Or is.

Zac:

That's true. Okay, good point.

Kim:

Or as we call it, humility. You don't have any humility. Like, we have it. It so hot here, you can bite the air. Like, you could take up. It's like cotton. Take a bite out of the air. It is so flipping hot.

Kim:

It's a Sizzler.

Zac:

This is what I hate about, like, Florida. I feel like when I'm in Florida in the summer, it's like you walk outside and you've taken a shower. That's what it feels like.

Kim:

Do not bathe in Florida, because there's no need.

Zac:

No, there's no need. You just walk outside.

Kim:

Speaking of bathing, my kids don't bathe in the summer either because they think swimming in the pool is a bath or a shower. So the kids have been out of school. Geez, they got out May 21st or right before Memorial Day. So it seems like 17,000 years since they have been in school.

Zac:

You're okay. When does your school, your school start. Ended really early. When does your school start back up? Oh, August 4th. Is Beau going to college?

Kim:

August 16th and August.

Zac:

August 4th. When?

Kim:

August 4th for Blanton, August 16th. And let me just for Beau Colleges. August 16th. It's about now that everybody, especially in the south, are about to. They've exhausted all their camps, all the vacations, the mundane day to day summer blues are setting in because you're just. The kids are eating everything. They're loud, they're on the video games. You're missing your time when you put them on the bus or they drive to school and you have this little moment where you can sip your coffee.

Kim:

I don't know, maybe I'm speaking for myself.

Zac:

No, you're totally not. I have so many gripes with the way summer works now with kids, especially with younger kids. Did you. When, okay, when your kids were. My kids age like so 10 years ago, right? When they were sort of like, you know, 6, 7, 8. Were there all these like little rinky dink one week camps where it's like, oh, they're going to this camp for a week.

Kim:

But I wish to God there had been. I mean I just.

Zac:

No, we sent Kim, you do not wish this. Because listen to this. We sent Natalie, my oldest kid, to a camp. The hours of this camp were 8:30 to 12:30.

Kim:

Oh, that's just enough to get excited. So you drop them off, then you turn around and go pick them up. Oh, Lord.

Zac:

Yep. It was. I was like, this is a three hour camp basically for me because of the travel time. What are we doing? She's just home all afternoon being like, I'm bored. I don't have anything to do. I'm like, I'm working. Figure it out.

Kim:

Right? I will say this. It's been a good summer. I am glad we're taping the pod today because I get a break. I get a midday break. Not that my kids are working. They have summer jobs. They're working on their tennis. But it is like, what are we eating? What are we gonna have? I'm like, put in a factor meal and get over it, you know, I mean, it's always, what am I doing? Do we have snacks? Do I need a drink? I Mean, it's always something.

Kim:

But I had this deep, deep conversation with a business friend of mine. She's in the summer blues with her kids, and she's at home with them. And she's an entrepreneur and brilliant woman. And she was just saying, and I don't have time to do this, and I want to do this, and I want to do this. And I was just like, wow, she is busier than me or wants to be. And I said, well, girl, you can't do everything, but you can do everything you were called to do. And she just started getting emotional. And you know me, I'm always popping off at the mouth.

Kim:

Some Southern colloquialism. My daddy taught me. I actually had somebody in business, this really high up person. I will not name the name of the company. We were sitting across the conference table negotiating nonetheless. And he said, is all you can do is speak in Southern colloquialisms. I wanted to jack his fricking jaws.

Zac:

Like, who says? Like, yeah, what? Okay, so what did you say? And then were you. Did you pull out some great Southern colloquialism?

Kim:

I can't remember what I said. Cause I was so mad. I just remember saying, I wish I could just knock his living teeth out of his mouth. I mean, he was young, too, and highly educated.

Zac:

Yeah.

Kim:

But needless to say, I make a lot more money than him. So God bless. But anyway, I say all that to say you really can't do everything you want to do. And I told her that. I said, but you can do everything you're called to do. And it just hit her because I'm going to tell a lot of you out there, sitting there listening. And I'm speaking from experience, and I'm speaking. I'm an expert at this.

Kim:

Doing too much.

Zac:

Yeah. I feel this so hard.

Kim:

This is for you, Zac.

Zac:

So for me, the summer is just. I feel like complete guilt, honestly. And I think this is like, goes hand in hand with maybe some of this mom guilt I think that you're describing. Because it's like summer's over before it starts. I feel like summer is ending before it starts. I feel like my kids have been out of school for, like. We finally sort of got in the groove of summer. And I'm looking at the calendar and I'm like, oh, not this weekend because of this.

Zac:

And, oh, next weekend we're doing. And then by the time I look at, you know, they're back at school, and I'm like, we haven't.

Kim:

You know what, Zac?

Zac:

We haven't gone on a big summer trip. We haven't done anything. And I feel kind of guilty about that.

Kim:

I don't feel guilty about that. But this is the thing that people need to hear me say really clearly, but we're busier than we ever been. Can you raise your hand and say, I'm so busy, okay? And we're busy doing things we ought not to be doing.

Zac:

Okay.

Kim:

Now, I'm not saying be a sloth and lay around and be lazy. I'm not that person who. You need to rest. I hear that. I'm almost worried about you. You have to rest. Rest does not mean laying around doing nothing. Rest is mean doing things that you're called to do because that's the stuff that lights your fire, that gets you going, that.

Kim:

That gives you energy. I'm telling y', all, we are messed up. We. We are doing so much of the things we ought not to be doing or chasing things that we want that we're not equipped to do, and we're not doing things that we are called and are supposed to do. I'm gonna give you an example. I'm gonna give you an example. Excel spreadsheet. So I'm sitting there with my team, and I'm sitting there deciding in an Excel spreadsheet, should a sponge be to.

Kim:

Should. Should we sell this foundation with a sponge or a brush? And the other day, I was sitting there going. I was sitting there talking to the team about it, and I finally said, what the crap am I doing this? This is. I shouldn't be sitting here talking about a sponge and a brush. And y' all all shouldn't be sitting here talking about the sponge and the brush. What are the cogs for the brush? What are the cogs? Whatever. The cheaper option is that the customer is going to get a better deal. That's what we gon do.

Kim:

Bye. This is the stuff, y', all, that I'm telling you. Especially as women, we beat ourselves up because we think we have to be in every little thing and do every little thing. I'm telling you, stop chasing what you want and stop doing what you want and what you think you should do and start doing what you're called to do. You are going to have more energy, you're going to have more focus. You're going to have more time, you're going to have more motivation, you're going to have more satisfaction and fulfillment. We're too busy. We're too preoccupied with things that don't matter and that don't deliver results.

Kim:

For our life. It's work for work's sake.

Zac:

Oh, that's a big one. Wait, that's the one that flips it for me. That don't deliver results for my life. But then you need to know what you. You have to have an idea of where you want your life to head, which I think is.

Kim:

Everybody already knows. They already know. It's very simple. I love the kiss method. Keep it simple. Stupid. We're not stupid. We just act like we are.

Kim:

We complicate. So whoever's listening to the sound.

Zac:

You know me, Kim. I've never complicated anything in my life. I don't know what you're talking about. People I've ever known. I'm so guilty of this.

Kim:

Everybody is, Zac. It's not just you. It's everybody. It's all of us. Because we think that if it's not torturous, it's not work. If we're happy about what we're doing, we're guilty about feel guilty about it. If we're not taking the big summer vacation and overspending and we're not enjoying our summer, what are you called to do? Maybe this summer you're called to just do a special project in the house with the kids, teaching them how to organize their closet. Maybe that.

Kim:

Maybe you're an organizer. Maybe you're a person who absolutely loves to clean, and this is your time to just clean out your house. And you love it. Do it. I'm telling you, it is really just that simple. Can anyone listening relate to this? My husband, Travis is truly the cheapest man in the free world. He is obsessed with saving money. But y', all, I'm so bad at budgeting and not so great at saving money.

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Kim:

So my kid is going off to college, so I want to have these moments, you know, with him while I have them home. I don't want to compromise that. My business is booming, and QVC is very, you know, satisfying and fulfilling, and I don't want to sacrifice that. So I've had to make some decisions about time management. Right. It's not that I can stop doing things, but I can organize it better. So maybe that's what you need to look into. Or maybe it is.

Kim:

You need to just sit down and start journaling for yourself. I'm telling you, I don't have all the answers. But I. If I'm sitting here on this podcast telling you something is because I'm living it or have lived it, and it's worked.

Zac:

Yeah. Wait, let's get. I. Can I ask you a question about you then? Just what is. What is the thing that you're trying to change that you're doing, that you're, you know, what specifically, like, is the thing that you're trying to.

Kim:

I have taken an inventory of my life. I'm almost 54. I'll be 54 July 27th. And, you know, I am in act three, okay. Of my life. And I have decided to take a look, really hard look at what adds value and fulfills me in my life. And so things that are hard and not delivering results to the fulfillment of my life, I'm cutting out now. It's a couple of categories in the business.

Kim:

It is some people that I'm doing business with it is some friendships that I'm not gonna be able to pour into as much as I need to. And not friends for life, but acquaintances. It is.

Zac:

Sorry, Amy. I'm scared. I'm totally kidding.

Kim:

She wish I would. She's like, please, God, give me a break. I'm adding things into replace that. It's social media. I've really let that go. And social media is such a huge platform to connect with, with you, and I love it. Not to self promote, but to connect. It's.

Kim:

I'm writing a new book. I'm creating a masterclass. And so it's just. It's some things that I really am called to do, but I've been putting it off for things that I want to do or others have wanted me to do. Want and call are two different things. I looked up the definition of want, and I just want to read it to you because I'm big on words. Words matter. Want is ought, should, or need to do something.

Zac:

Ought, should, or need to do something.

Kim:

That's a want. That's the definition of a want. Okay, let's. Let's look up calling. Calling is the idea of discovering the purpose or path that feels deeply meaningful and fulfilling, often aligning one's values, passions, and talents.

Zac:

That's so different. It's. That's a completely different thing.

Kim:

Because this is the thing, Zac. This is what I caught myself doing. Wanting to be on the rat race, wanting to do the task and just checking it off the list. I wanted that. It gave me the dopamine hit of accomplishment, but it left the calling on the table.

Zac:

It's like you were addicted to checking the things off the list, like do the business has to be hard. It has to be. It's so big, it's growing. I have to spend all my time doing it.

Kim:

It's a cheap thrill to check a to do list off, right? There's no fulfillment in that. It's a dopamine hit. So I can tell you, I can tell a lot of people listening right now have not gotten to where they really want to be in life because they're doing things they want to do or ought to do instead of the calling that they should be stepping into. And that's the big lie of life.

Zac:

It's like procrastinating, Kim. I mean, it's like, for me, if I have some big task, I know I. I is like the thing I should be doing, the thing that I. That I'm called to do, and then I'm putting it off. I'LL do all this other work. I'll clean my house. I'll. I'll answer 50 emails.

Zac:

I'll do all this stuff to feel productive. And it feels good. But then at the end of the day, I'm like, I didn't do anything today.

Kim:

Well, it's. It's not even. That's not even procrastination. It's substitution. It's not procrastination. It's. You're substituting what you know, you're called to do for things you ought to do or want to do or you should do. And it's a big concept.

Kim:

So it's like. It's like, I remember this woman came up to me not too long ago. She's actually getting the word decide. She wants me to write the word decide because I just said I woke up and I just said I decided I was going to lose weight. And she said, I did it, too. And it worked.

Zac:

Yeah.

Kim:

I said, how did you do it? She goes, I didn't even work a program. I just cut back. But it's not about the program you work. You just decided. This is the same thing I'm talking about. It's here. It's a mindset.

Zac:

It's up in your head. Yeah.

Kim:

It's a mindset. And when I.

Zac:

So she wants you to write it on her body. And she's on a piece of paper. Okay.

Kim:

And her life has completely changed, by the way. Now she's becoming an influencer for qvc. It's just the most. She was asked to be on a show just because of that podcast. When I talked about deciding, she just started. She started. I said, I just started to make better choices and decisions in my life. And I started decide to put myself first.

Kim:

I put my health first. And she goes, now QVC called me to be on the show as a model. And she goes, and now I'm going to be an influencer for them. I'm like, dang, girl, what if I hadn't done that episode that I was called to do about making a drastic change in my life? What if I would have just done a checklist? I got to just, you know, I gotta run this.

Zac:

Yeah. And it was so. It was the honest truth. Like, it's not just that you decided to do it and you. But it.

Kim:

But it is.

Zac:

I think that was a deeply personal episode. When I look back at that episode and I actually just rewatched it because we were just pulling clips from some of our most popular, best episodes. And that's one of them. It's had one of the biggest fan reactions we've ever had on the show because we've heard many people say this, actually, and it's so honest. And there's a moment in that show, Kim, where you're like, I think people are gonna be mad at me for saying this. Like, people try so hard to lose weight and they spend so much money and effort and blah, blah, blah. And I'm paraphrasing, but they're gonna be mad at me because I'm just saying, just decide.

Kim:

Right. It's so simple. But I will tell you, I'm not saying you don't have to do your to do checklist, but prioritize and substitute where you can things that don't matter for things that do. And what matters the most. Watch this. It's going to tick a lot of people off. It's not your health, not your wealth, not your family. It's you and your calling.

Kim:

The Bible says, give, and it shall be given unto you, pressed down, shaken together. Running over give is not just giving money or even your time. Give of what's been given unto you. Give as it's been given unto you. What have you been given that you're supposed to give unto us, the world at large? And when you give as it's been given unto you, pressed down, shaken together, and running over, give of what your talents, gifts, and callings are, and it sounds super woo woo cheesy, but y', all, it truly is the crux of life. Other than my salvation in Jesus. Other than people say what the second thing is, who you marry. I don't think so.

Kim:

I think the second thing is how you move in your calling. Because if you move in your true calling and what your purpose is in life, and then I have. The Christian community goes, well, your purpose is to serve Jesus. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know that's why we were created. But how you gonna do it? People are looking for purpose. They're looking for purpose. They're looking for, why am I here on this earth? That's what everybody. That's the big question.

Kim:

So that's important in life. And the enemy, Satan, the devil. Okay. He wants you not to know that and get you off your game and get you busy wanting things that you really and doing things you really ought not to be doing.

Zac:

Well, and this was what I was going to say about wanting. Kim, I. Having kids has made me realize how much of what we want is just being shown to us. It's just marketed to us. It's just, you know, companies telling us, you want this, you should take this. Here's an advertisement. Here's the. Like, it's amazing.

Zac:

If you put a toy in front of my kids in a store, they're gonna want it.

Kim:

But is that the really question? Like, you hear a lot of people say, find out what you really want in life. I don't think that's the question you need to ask yourself.

Zac:

Yeah, I'm talking about stuff, but it's everything. It goes to everything, right?

Kim:

That's not the question totally, but that's the question society feeds us. What do you want? What do you want? What do you want?

Zac:

Yeah, yeah.

Kim:

That's not the question you need to be asking yourself right now. Right now, this week. You need to write down on a blank piece of paper, what am I called for?

Zac:

Yeah.

Kim:

Not what do I want. What am I called for to do? That's the big question you need to be answering. And then it shall be.

Zac:

That's outside of money, right? That's outside of money.

Kim:

It's outside of all that will be added unto you. Press down, checking together. All of that will come to you when you are operating in your calling. Because people are like, I just want my business to be as big as yours and make as much money as your does your yours do step into your calling and it will. And people like Kim, you can't guarantee somebody's going to. I said, I can guarantee the money, the success and all of that will come to what they're doing. Yes, I can guarantee that. It follows it.

Kim:

It can't help but follow it, right? Give and it shall be given to you. Give and it shall be. What you give out, you get back. So if you're giving out rat race to do list, checking it off the list, that's what you gonna get back. I tell my kids all the time if you speak negative, because I will tell you. This is so funny. This is a true story. So it's a big thing in the young to call everybody, hey, fatty.

Kim:

Hey, fatty. I don't know if you've. You don't have teenage kids, but that's. That's all over social media. Fat, ah, fat, ah, fatty. Oh, God, it's everywhere.

Zac:

Is that, is that a. Is that a positive thing? Is that like, it could be, I.

Kim:

Don'T know, but it don't sound positive to me. So I'm just saying, like, it does not what you're putting out. I don't say, be careful. Y' all gonna turn around and be a fatty. Fat eye, watch out what you say. And that don't mean just in weight. That might mean in gluttony. That might mean in, you know, what you're consuming, you know, it's consumption.

Kim:

Gluttony.

Zac:

Yeah.

Kim:

That leads to sloth. I'm just telling you, we are co creators of our life. Stop wanting to do and what you ought to do and start doing what you're called to do. And you say, well, Kim, how do I figure that out? That is for another podcast, because I don't have that answer and. But for you, I have that answer for me. But I will tell you, if you get still and start thinking about it, it will show up for you because it's in you, it's there. But for a lot of us, it's dormant and it's not been exercised. Heck, for some of us, I hadn't even seen the light of day ever.

Zac:

Do you know, okay, when you're taking certain actions, do you know in that moment, like, this is it, this is what I'm called to do. I know I'm doing it. This feels so right. It feels so good. Or does it occur to you later like, how does that work for you, personally for you here?

Kim:

You'll feel it, you'll feel it instantaneously. And the thing about it is, if you've never felt it, you don't know. So when you've ever. When you felt it once, you know when it ain't right. You know what I'm saying? Like, you don't have to struggle. You work hard, you work long hours, you self sacrifice some of your personal things, but you want to do that when it is hard. When, when, when there's no when it's not gelling at all. When it you, it's not right.

Kim:

I don't care what they tell you. Working hard and having to sacrifice and it not being right are two different things. They don't simultaneously go together. So I'm not saying is if you are an athlete training in hurdles, that if you don't make every hurdle every time, then it's not what you're called to do. No, you gonna hit a hurdle, you're gonna fall, you're gonna crash, but you're excited to get back up and keep going. That's how you know you're called to it, right?

Zac:

It's not that it's not easy. It's hard. But it's.

Kim:

But it's easy.

Zac:

But that motivation, there's something there. Yeah, it's easy, it's easy. Yeah, it's a hard easy.

Kim:

It's a hard easy.

Zac:

Getting back up and continuing is easy.

Kim:

Let me tell you, the hard is worth it. The fulfillment even comes from the hardness of it all. When you're in something and it feels like you're depleted and you feel like you are being used or you are not in alignment with it, believe that feeling, because that's your calling going, that ain't right. Don't do that. Run, Forrest, run. I mean, there's just. I can't tell you how many times I'm like, why did I believe what I was thinking and wanting and not believe what I know in my soul to be true?

Zac:

It's a gut check. It's a gut check. That's what you're saying.

Kim:

It's. It's a it.

Zac:

What if the gut check. What if you know the gut check's wrong? What if you are. You know, this is okay.

Kim:

To quote one of the best movies, horror movies ever, the call is coming from inside the house. The calling.

Zac:

Is that Scream.

Kim:

I think it's Scream.

Zac:

Is that from Scream?

Kim:

The call is not external coming in. It's coming from deep within. So if someone's going, you should do this, you should do that, you should do that. And it does not settle inside. They are tell. They are coming from their point of view, not from your calling. They're coming from what they think. And a lot of times it's what they want you to do for them.

Kim:

The great news about calling, it never expires, it never dies, it's never done. There's still time.

Zac:

What do you say to someone who is 45 and she's an accountant and she knows she hates it, but it's how she pays the bills and she has a family and she has responsibilities, and she doesn't feel like she can just blow up her life and be like, this isn't my calling. I'm going to quit my job and I'm going to go do whatever. You know, how do you. How does that work for someone who's. Because I feel like that's so many of us, right? I feel like we're stuck economically. Right? We're economically. Like we have to do certain things.

Kim:

Well, work towards a place you can blow up your life. Work towards a place where you can step out, but take small steps towards it now, because this is the beautiful thing when you. When you are doing what you are called to do, even in the smallest portion of your day, okay, say it's only 15 minutes a day that you can really do Your God given fulfilled calling, the roi, the return on investment from that is quadruple. What a busy task want list will give you. And so as you continue to pour into that 15 minutes and 20 minutes, it will grow exponentially. It will 10x the calling and you will start you, the balance will shift and your life will open up more to be able to do this. But if you can and you can work towards just blowing it up and saying I'm going for it, do it. Your life is short.

Zac:

Okay?

Kim:

Life is short. Life is really, really short. I've wasted 15 years. I wish I would have done this 15 years ago. 20 years ago.

Zac:

Weren't you in a different stage though? Like you were taking care of your kids and I know you were, you were a stay at home mom for.

Kim:

A while and doesn't matter. Should. Should have done this long time ago.

Zac:

What's this? Can you, can you define it?

Kim:

Can you put into words speaking to people about faith and purpose, should have done it. I did it. I was doing it. I always have done it. But I should have purposefully made that my to do list.

Zac:

Well, and you did it through music for a long time. You had.

Kim:

Yeah. Calling is not a vocation. I mean, calling is not a occupation or vocation. It's not a job. It's bigger than that. So you can do it in many different ways.

Zac:

Right.

Kim:

That's also a lot of people think their calling is what they're going to do. It's not what you do, it's who you are. And a lot of again, that's the biggest question. Who am I? Why am I here? I don't. Your husband ain't going to fulfill you. That ain't your calling. Your kids are not your calling. Your job's not your calling.

Kim:

It's time. It's time. You're wasting time. You're wasting time. A lot of you are sitting out here listening to me and you're wasting time. And you know it. And you're ticked off with me. Some of you.

Zac:

And you know it.

Kim:

Some of you go, this is just woo, woo poo, shoo, shoo, whatever. I'm right, right?

Zac:

It's gonna make people angry. This is like what you know, it's like it's gonna make people angry. You know it, you know it. You know you gotta make a change. You are scared to make a change. So make the. Just do it. Just try it.

Kim:

Well, do it if you want to. If you don't want to. I hear you, but I love you and I'm Telling you, I have seen it happen. I've seen it in people's lives. There is such a fulfillment to what I'm saying. And there is. And all I know is that I have messed up. That's why I'm sitting here telling you, because I've lived it.

Zac:

Yeah.

Kim:

I've lived it. And it is a night and day difference. You're happier, you're more fulfilled, you might be even more tired, but it doesn't matter because it's filling you up. It's not depleting.

Zac:

Well, it's like by a friend of mine always had a saying. It was like, if you want to get something done, ask a really busy person to do it.

Kim:

Right?

Zac:

And you know, their point was that's the person who just is really good at doing stuff all the time. Like, there are some people that are just so good at. And they're, they're working in their calling, they're working with what they know.

Kim:

Or maybe, maybe some people that are really good at what they're doing and they, A lot of people ask them that they've got need to say no to because that's, that's taking time away from pursuing their calling.

Zac:

Oh, wait, that's. I forget. That's where you started. You started this by saying, don't you. Did you say you had to say no to some more stuff or you had to do less? Yeah. Yeah, okay.

Kim:

And you know what? Why didn't I do that 10 years ago? We could get into it. People pleasing, la la la la la. Who cares? I just stopped it.

Zac:

If you were going to give Kim 10 years ago some advice, what would it be?

Kim:

Kim, honey, believe in what you're called to do. You are one of a kind. You are unique. Not only are you fearfully and wonderfully made, you're fearless. Don't give two rips about what other people think. About your education, how you look, your boldness and your Southernness. Say what you mean to say, and if they don't like it, leave them alone. Somebody's going to love it.

Kim:

If I could, if I could say to anybody listening to me right now, as we're wrapping up, girl, it's time to step out. It's time to step into what you know you should be doing. I don't care what your husband says. I don't care what your family says. I don't care what your neighborhood says. I don't care what your kids say, your grandkids, or even your church says. It's time for you to step into it. For you.

Kim:

We got. We need what you have to offer. And I'm kind of ticked off because you're. I'm missing out on what you should be doing. So make the decision. Chase the call. Let the wants and the Optus go. It's time.

Zac:

It's time. All right. I'm going to keep working on this. I'm a work in progress with this.

Kim:

You are. We all are. But let me read it to you again. Let me read the quote that I said to my friend.

Zac:

Yeah.

Kim:

Read it one more time.

Zac:

Okay.

Kim:

You can't do everything girl you want to do, but you can do everything you're called to do. Bye. 

Kim:

Zac Miller is the Executive Producer of the Kim Gravel Show. His production company is Uncommon Audio. Our Producer is Kathleen Grant, the Brunette Exec. Production help from Emily Bredin and Sara Noto. Our cover art is designed by Sanaz Huber at Memarian Creative. Our show is edited by Mike Kligerman. Our guest intros are performed by Roxy Reese. Our guest booking is done by Central Talent Booking. Our ads are furnished by True Native Media. And y'all, I want to give a big huge thank you to the entire team at QVC+ and a special thank you to our audience for making this community so strong. If you are still listening then you must have liked a few episodes along the way. So tell somebody about it. Tell somebody about this show and join our mailing list at kimgravelshow.com. I cannot do this show without you and so I thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening. I hope you gain a little bit of encouragement, light and love love from watching and listening to The Kim Gravel Show. I love you all so much. Till next time. Bye.