March 23, 2023

5 Tips To Boost Your Confidence For National Self-Confidence Day

I want you to ask yourself this one question on national self-confidence day: are you a believer?

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We have a crisis of confidence in the world today and I’m using national self-confidence day to spread the message that you can level up and have the confidence to live the life you want. This week I’m sharing 5 tips to boost your confidence! But before I share those tips with you I'll show you how to start changing your mindset so you can turn your failures into your confidence. It all starts with a question: do you believe in yourself? 


This week:

Why there is a confidence crisis today

The incredibly deep thing my son told me

How failures shape your confidence

What makes a confident person

5 ways to boost your confidence

How Zac turned his insecurity into confidence at the gym


The 5 Tips To Boost Your Confidence:

1.    Be kind to yourself.

2.    Don’t compare yourself to others.

3.    Take care of yourself.

4.    Spend time with people who make you happy.

5.    Do something you enjoy every day.



Here is my favorite quote from this week’s episode:

"Life is not how you take it. It's what you make it."



The Kim Gravel Show is a weekly podcast for women where you stop doubting and start believing in yourself. On each episode Kim tackles the topics that women care about in a way that will make you laugh, make you think, and help you see your life in a new, more positive way.


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Do you want to stop making excuses and value yourself more than ever?

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Kim Gravel: Coming up on The Kim Gravel Show, if you're probably listening to this podcast, you've probably failed a lot too. And what I'm saying is that failure is true self-confidence, you get more confident in who you are, more from the loss. Then you do the.

Opening Introduction: Let's just go on and spill the tea. This is The Kim Gravel Show. This is one of the realest persons I've ever met in my darn life. You gotta watch this. My mission is to encourage every single woman, we're here to lift y'all up. There's no one more effective than moms. You mess with the bull. You going to get the horns. I need coffee. I need Jesus and I need therapy. If you can bring a smile to people's faces, why would you not? We love our kids. We love our husbands. What a blessing. We're gonna dedicate this to you in finding your superpower. Okay girl. True confidence is knowing who you are and why you're here.

Hey y'all. Kim Gravel here and this is The Kim Gravel Show. And this season we are leveling up our lives and stepping into our call and our purpose, and we're gonna do it together. Today's show is we are celebrating coming up this Sunday is National Self-Confidence Day. It's March 26th, so we're gonna gear up on how to, level up our self-confidence on National Self-Confidence Day.

We are right at a month before the book is on the streets.

Zac Miller: It was for the, that part before the book hits the streets,

Kim Gravel: before our book hits the streets. April 25th is the launch of Collecting Confidence. It is that book that's gonna inspire you. It's going to hopefully touch you. It's going to help you see how.

Harness the confidence that you already have, that you've already collected in your life. So we're gonna kick it off with this show, talking about National Confidence Day and how you can slet's say, Step into the confidence that you already have. All right, let's do it. Zac, I'm excited about this. I didn't even know there was a national self-confidence day.

I should have known is that National Ice Cream Day. So why would there not be,

Zac Miller: there's, there's everything day Kim. I think it's just safe to say, like, at this point, everything has a holiday. If you just Google it. Like, if you like something, just Google it. There's a holiday.

Kim Gravel: Just Google it. So, but this is a holiday I think I can get behind.

The timing of it is perfect cuz with the book coming out with what we're trying to do here with The Kim Gravel Show confidence is, I think we have a crisis of confidence in the world today. And I have a few theories of why that is. I think we live in a world that. So strongly comparative, meaning we're always looking at other people comparing ourselves.

That would be a good podcast, by the way. We should do that podcast. But we're always looking at other people to compare ourselves to. We're always trying to look from outside of ourselves instead of inside of ourselves. We're in a place where life is happening to us so fast. Right? I mean, I don't know about you, Zac, but I'm constantly being bombard. With life. I mean the kids, the businesses, k you know, keeping up with the Joneses, trying to keep up the, the, the relationship with Travis and I we're not just two ships passing in the night. He pops me on the butt and I give my little kiss on the cheek, and that's about all we're doing right now because we're just.

So busy. That was overshare.

Zac Miller: That was overshare. But we all liked it. We liked it, and we all morphed

Kim Gravel: and he does. He smacks me on my butt. I guess it's just such a big moving target. So he just smacks it and then, you know, it just,

Zac Miller: if I wanted to be mean, I'd be like, well, he can't. How could he not miss it?

Kim Gravel: Okay, Zac. Ok. True. Hashtag truth right there. Hashtag

Zac Miller: Oh my God. I'm gonna get, this is the episode where Zac gets fired. We got a new producer.

Kim Gravel: People are gonna love it. It it ain't, listen, it is truth. Hashtag truth. No, but it's one of those things where it's so hard for me to do this, but I always have let my kids fail a lot.

So a, I wanna swoop in and handle it and shore 'em up, and I do when it has to be done. But I've had to really let my kids fail a lot. And if you're probably listening to this podcast, you've probably failed a lot too. And what I'm saying is in that failure is true. Self-confidence. You get more confident in who you are, more from the losses than you do the wins.

 If you look at it the right way, you can take that, internalize it and make it something great. You can turn that message into a message and you might wanna cut this out, Zac, but last night it was it. I had such a beautiful moment with my eldest. And it's just so good. I don't know all your parents out there and you've plant these seeds and you're telling, do this, do your homework doing.

You're telling them all this stuff, and you just feel like you're a drill sergeant. And every now and then you'll get a glimpse of where. They get it, you know, or they've, it's, it's sank in, you know, they understand what you're saying and they say it back to you. But this is a true story just happened last night.

 We were driving home from Blanton's birthday party and it was just me and Bo in the car, and he was just talking about believing, believing, believing, believing. And he goes, mom, I'm a believer. Cool. I thought that was a weird, I mean, he's a believer in God and he has his faith. Yeah, but it was a bigger concept than it was.

Well, there's no other bigger concept than it was just even all encompassing concept. When I said, I said, oh really? What does that mean? He said, oh, Zac, I could get emotional. Do it. Because he said, cuz he was talking about some of his friends and he named off some of his friends. He says, I don't know if they're believers.

And I said, oh, okay, okay. And I was like, well, tell me what that means for you. And he said, I just believe in myself and I believe in my dreams. He said, and I believe in God. I said, oh, you do? I said, is that what you, that's what you're talking about when you say believer. He said, yeah, because he goes, I have a lot of faith.

He said, and I have a lot of faith. Like I know how you and dad have taught me, and I have my faith in what you and dad have taught me, but this is the kicker. But he. I have my own faith because God has really shown up for me.

Zac Miller: Yeah, cool.

Kim Gravel: He said, there's been times in my life where he's really shown up for me and I have faith that he has the best for me and I have faith and I believe that I've got great things ahead of me.

He's 15.

Zac Miller: That's amazing. That must be such a great, like I got chills when you said.

Kim Gravel: I just wanted to stop the car cuz you can't overreact with kids cuz if you go crazy and start overreact with kids, they'll shut down and be like, oh, that's right. Yeah, totally. I had to stay really calm. I'd stay really calm and so, I stayed really calm and then, you know, he kept talking and I thought to myself the reason he can say that, I mean, it was so logical.

It was not, you know, he's not an emotional kid. He was just like, because God has shown up for me and things have worked out for me. He just was like, boo, boo boo, boo, boo. But the confidence in that, the, the, the being able to recognize it 15 years old. That it's worked out, that A God has shown up for him, but B, that he's got faith in what he's meant to do.

And B, regardless of what happens to him, cuz he's been treated poorly in some situations like we all have. Sure everyone has. But that's not what he pressed into and leaned into. He realized, oh, there's a bigger purpose, there's a bigger plan, and that's what I'm gonna believe in because I've experienced it.

So I say all that to say, are you a believer? Are you a believer in the fact that you are co-creating your life with God, that you are called to a big purpose, that you are a person of confidence? I mean, what are you gonna believe in? Are you gonna believe in the mess of it and you're just gonna take what life gives you?

Are you gonna be a believer in that you are made for more and that you know there's something better for you right now? And I thought to myself, why didn't I get that at 15? I didn't get that at 15. I still don't get that today.

Zac Miller: Well, but I would say that your parents did a really good job making you and hope, like shaping you into the confident person that you are.

And so much of it starts with your parents, right?

Kim Gravel: I know Zac, but, but yes, yes, you are right. And I do owe a lot to my parents, but we are taught things every day through our lives. What makes us get it? What makes him, I I What made him get that? It's not what I said. It's what he got. It's not how, I mean, you can say it till the cows come home.

I mean, look, I wanna lose 30 pounds. You and I both know how to lose 30 pounds. You do not eat crap and you work out. That's how you lose 30 pounds. But why do some people, they know, they have the head knowledge of how to get healthy, and then p, some people have the head knowledge and do something about it and believe it.

 What makes a person get it and move in it? That's what we're talking about here.

Zac Miller: That's it. That's the trick right there. If you could get everyone listening to the show to take one step. Right. Just one step. Right. In that right direction, that's a huge impact. Like that's, that's like a life's work.

You know what I mean?

Kim Gravel: Correct. That's what happened to Beau like at 15. The fact that he understands that and chooses to believe that for himself. There's no amount of money. There's no amount of talking. There's no amount of classes he can take. I no one can make you believe. That is something you have to choose to do that you have to say, I'm not gonna take it.

I'm gonna make it. He has said, I'm gonna make it. I'm gonna choose to believe I'm gonna create, co-create my life. That is the big get. That's it. And you say, Kim, how do you become confident on national self-confidence? It's time for you to believe it.

It's a perspective shift. It's, what am I gonna do with this? I've got, I've got, you know, five loaves, two fish, I've got a few quarters here, I've got some bread. And so what, what do you have in your hand? What do you have in your hand is like, this is your life. What's your life is, is right here. What am I gonna do with.

Am I gonna open my fingers and drop it? Am I gonna just hold onto it and never try to do anything? Am I gonna break it off and give it away so it can come back to it's, it's, it's our decision of what we're gonna do with what we're given. And that's what was exciting to see. Bo you can't make somebody do that.

No. They have to do that for themselves. And that's why we say self confide. Because it can't be Kim confidence. It can't be Zac confidence.

Zac Miller: Right. It can't be, you can't tell me to be confident. You can't force me to be confident. You can't ground, you can't ground Bo until he's confident. No, I mean that would be nice if you could,

Kim Gravel: but, but do you know and, and I was okay cuz I've just been digging this out.

Of course. I called Amy in, I've called my mom and they're like, mother, they're so good. That's so sweet. You're doing such a good job. I didn't even wanna go through that. What I'm saying is how did he get it? Like what made him get. At his age.

Zac Miller: Okay, so what, so what do you think it is? Wait, so we had an entire episode.

I had a whole different episode planned, but I wanna dig into this, right? Okay. What, what made him get, what do you think? Like what is the main thing? What's the first

Kim Gravel: thing? I know what it is. Okay. I know what it is. Without a shot of a doubt. Okay. Tell us right now. It is his life experience. It's this whole concept that his life is not how you take it, it's what you make it.

He had such. For his little 13, 14 year old self, he, and it's in the book. He had such a traumatic situation happen to him early on in his life, and instead of deciding, now we got him out of that situation and we as parents did the responsible thing, but I don't care about all that. I'm talking about this young child's life experience.

He took this traumatic life experience and he didn't allow. To just happen to him and take what was handed to him. He took that experience and made it something better, bigger, and more. That was his choice. So what have you been doing with all of your life experiences? Because y'all, you got a PhD in life that no one else has.

You don't have the same degree in life as everybody else has. You have your own specialized. Educational experience and I'm a big proponent of higher education, big proponent of that. But it's not always a college. It's not always. Sometimes it's the school of life and your lived life experiences are what should give you confidence cuz ain't nobody else got 'em like you.

 You are the only person that has experienced what you have experienced in the way that you've experienced. And that's where Bo has this confidence at 15. He's not looking to see what happened to, to, to his friend Carson or Coleman or Jacob, or he's not looking to all those kids. He's saying, this is what I've experienced and this is why I'm a believer.

And what he was doing was talking about wonder if my friends are believe. Huge. So now when you have that lived experience and you live life instead of how you're taking it, but how you're making it then comes the overflow, then you have the capacity to step outside of yourself because you want that for other people.

So he was sitting there going, I believe in myself. I believe in my faith because not only has God shown up for me, but I've shown up for me. I wonder if my friends are doing the same thing.

Zac Miller: So now, now he's gonna help them, massive.

Kim Gravel: He's gonna be there for them. He don't even know what he's saying. He don't even understand what he's saying.

And I wrote this down last week. Confident people want you to be confident too.

I'm a very confident person. I'm very confident. I'm a believer, Bo, so I am doing this cuz I want everybody else to be confident too. And what they are. And who they're called to be and what they're meant to do. So you say, how do you know if someone's confident? Because if they want you to be too,

how do you know you're confident? Cuz you want others to be too.

So as you're going through your life and as you're living your life, there are some really, really. Red flag, hand up. Hey moments. That's gonna tell you that you're on the right path or the wrong path when it comes to your confidence. Zac, if you find yourself criticizing a lot of people, that ain't confidence. That's insecurity.

If you find yourself. Judging someone else because they don't think like you work, like you act like you walk like you. That's not a sign of confidence. That's a sign of insecurity and judgment. My faith and my confidence cannot be moved. It cannot be shaken. It cannot be taken away from me, and it's because I've lived it.

I've experienced it. It doesn't matter what you say. It doesn't matter what you, what you, what your opinion of the situations that I've been in or what your opinion of me is. It doesn't matter. I still want you to be the best you you can be. That's how you know it's authentic. That's how you know it's real.

Like when people come at me and say to me, Well, Kim's just a loud mouth old woman. This a, you know, or, or Kim's faith is blah, blah blah or whatever. Cuz I get y'all, I get a attack too. I get a text. But it doesn't, I don't feel like I'm gonna raise up and I'm getting your grill and, and flip a table like Real Housewives or whomever.

It doesn't, it doesn't affect me like that. How it, how it hits me is, man, I hate that you think that, but I want you to feel the best you can be. And I know you're not the best you can be. Because you're hating on me. Just like I go into a meeting and if I'm sitting in a meeting and I can tell that person thinks I'm dumb, I know that they kind of are.

Right? Because if you, if you don't, you see what I'm saying? Like it doesn't affect what I think about me, what you say about me, but it does tell me that you need. Some self-confidence you need, you know, so, I had, my dad used to say what Peter says about, Paul says more about Peter than it does Paul.

Zac Miller: I a hundred percent agree with that. Like a million percent agree with that.

Kim Gravel: So, right. So if somebody is in your world and they're, and or in your stratosphere or on social media, whatever, and they're cutting you down and putting you down, it's, it's not that you don't have what it takes, it's that they want more of who they, they're not walking and who they.

Zac Miller: Well, and why is it, why is it bothering them so much? Because they have the issue, right?

Kim Gravel: But, but I don't feel bad about them. I feel like, but dude, if you had, what, what I'm talking about you, you would feel fulfilled. You wouldn't be here talking about me. So when some, like, what, that's what I'm saying.

That's how you take what's happening to you and you turn around and you make it into something. So a red flag is, confidence is contagious. Confident is not always consistent, but confident. People want you to be confident. If, if I had a situation where I had a C, okay, if I had a skincare product, which I'm working on right now, by the way, if I had a skincare product that could take away my wrinkles, I'm not gonna just sit here and hold that for myself.

I'm gonna try to get it out to the marketplace. I'm gonna try to give it to my family, my friends. I want other people to be wrinkle free. Yeah, right. That's life. So if go hang around people, watch this podcast, get with people in com, your community, find people that are truly confident and be around them.

 Don't go around people who are downing you and that's, it's more than positivity. People who are downing you, they can't help you. They can't encourage you. They can't take you to a new level. They can't do any of that. None of that, because they ain't you can't give what you ain't got. You can't give what you don't have.

So go find you people that are truly confident in who they are. Go find you some believers.

Zac Miller: What if those people that are, that are taking you down, the people that aren't believers, what if those people are your family, are your the people that you are just so close to that you can't just walk away or at least you can't walk away easily.

Kim Gravel: You're gonna have emotionally, you're gonna have to emotionally turn them off. You're gonna have to, instead of taking it, you've got to internalize it and you've got to make it something. Truly understanding this concept is true power. When you understand what they're saying to you is not a reflection on you, it's a reflection on them, then you don't let it seep in.

You don't believe that because you know it to be false. I'm telling you right now, if someone's cutting you down and bringing you down and, and, and purposefully dragging you down, or some people are just in bad habits and just drag, just drag down for the sake of dragging down. You know that they're not a confident person and they can't give you what you do, what they don't have.

You've got to, you've got to know that, that's why you've got to soak in podcasts like this. You've got to read books like the one coming out. You've gotta read other, you gotta get with people who get this concept and who are living it and who've experienced it. And then you've gotta take your life experience and then you've got to harvest it.

It's a big harvest. Y'all. Our lives are white. With harvest. It's time to harvest Everything from the life experiences you have lived, it's bountiful. It's plentiful. It, it, and I, you know, my, I come from a long line of farmers and they would, they would rotate crops because you're not supposed to print the same thing, the same on the same field.

You're supposed to rotate crops and let the soil rest. And that's what your life has been. You've probably had an experience maybe in a marriage that's been broken, or maybe financial or career or with children, ba, ba, ba. You've had so many rotating crops in your life. Of, of this, this fruit, this, this bountiful harvest that some of you have never taken advantage of or ha have eaten from that harvest.

There is so many of you that have not picked the ripe tomato and just taken a bite out of it. But if you know anything about farming is. You've got pests, you've got, you've got, climate, you've got rich soul, or sometimes it has dehydrated soul. You've got so many things in your life that you've experienced that, oh God, we probably would get just hundreds of emails telling us how many hard times that people have had and gone through.

 But that's the harvest. And it's time to take that. And then make it something. Don't just let things happen to you and waste it. Harvest it and turn it into something really, really amazing. And a true harvest of a life doesn't just feed your table, but multiplies and fees so many others.

That's how you know someone's really confident when they have what they have, and they want you to have what you have.

Zac Miller: I think that is like the kick in the butt that some people are gonna need, right? Like just to say, man, let me look. You're not even asking people to look at themselves as much. You're like, look at the people around you.

Kim Gravel: And if, if they're not confident, then don't listen to them and, and you know, they're not confident. If they're cutting you down and dragging you down, that's not a confident person. If I can walk in my purpose and my calling confidence, and I ate all that in the bag of chips, I am broke down. Rick rack, Patty whack, give a dog a bone, honey, I don't have all that going on and I'm confident in myself and what I'm put on this earth to do.

You be confident in yourself. I know that for. A thousand percent. Because if, if I can be used and I can walk in my calling and be confident, y'all so much better than me, it ain't even funny. So I know you can do it. You're smarter. There's so many people out there, smarter than me, funnier than me, cuter than me, thinner than me.

More educated than me. But they're not me. Nope. It's only one you. There's only one you, Zac. There's only one person on the other side of this camera watching. There's only one you. So I say do like Bo does be a believer. So Zac, I've got five tips, Zac, to how to live out your confidence on national confidence stage.

Just five little things you can do. To boost your confidence on national confidence day. I'm gonna let y'all know right after this.

Hey, y'all, Kim Gravel here, and I'm excited about my book that's releasing very, very soon called Collecting Confidence. And I wrote it because I want everyone to feel confident. And be the confident person that you already are and walk in it. I'm hoping that when you read it, you're gonna be encouraged.

You're gonna be inspired, you're gonna laugh a little. And also you're gonna take my stories of my life, the experiences, the ups, the downs, the ins and outs, the highs, the lows. And it's been that thread in my life that has given me the confidence to be who I was meant to be. And I wanted to do the same for you because you already have it inside of you from the day you were born.

To right now, it's time to start where you are to become everything you were meant to be. And in Collecting Confidence, it will encourage you to do just that. Collecting Confidence comes out April 25th and you can pre-order it now. Wherever books are sold. Let's all do this thing together and walk boldly y'all in your collected confidence.

Before we get into the five tips, lemme talk, I'm gonna ask you something, Zac. Okay. What makes you feel confident? Like for you, what makes you feel confident?

Zac Miller: Oh, I was definitely dreading this question. Okay. No, no, no. This is good. I've actually been thinking a lot about how. So something that's actually made me feel really confident recently.

So I've always been like a small person. Like I'm just, I'm, I'm not very tall. I've always been like thin. I've always just been like a, a like a relatively smaller person, right?

Kim Gravel: You are not small. There's nothing small.

Zac Miller: Look at you go, you're a small person. Well, like, I just like, that's sort of how I thought about myself, right?

Like, I'm not a physically intimidating, like I'm not like, you know, like one of these people. I've never thought of myself as someone who's like gone to the gym or been like someone with like big muscles or anything. And I started working out and I started going to the gym a few months ago and it has really changed the way that I think about myself.

Like it really has, I think about myself differently now.

Kim Gravel: And like, what do you, okay. Tell me the shift. Like what do you think about This is great. Oh my gosh, I love this so much.

Zac Miller: I think about myself. I'm not like, okay, so, so I've always been like, okay, well, I'm just like, not one of those people. Like, I'm just not one of those people who can like, you know, who's gonna be really strong.

I've always, I've never been like, you know, I can physically, like I move stuff and I had a very physical job when I worked in production and you know, moving a hundred pound sandbags and things like that, I could do it, but I was never one of those people who could do it sort of easily and do it effortlessly and be like, I'm strong, like physically strong.

 And now I think of myself as someone who can be and is physically strong and like, look, I'm not suddenly ripped. Like I have a long way to go before I. You know, bench pressing some amount that would make someone go, wow, really? But I feel different. And it, and it didn't take that much time and it didn't even take that much effort.

I just had to start doing it. And I've been really, really, and so you asked me what makes me feel confident. It's just being like, wow, so I could make this one change in my life and it actually has made me see myself differently. What else can I do? And that's, I think because of you, Kim, like I, seriously, it goes, all of of this goes back to it's cause of you, this show, but it goes back to because of you what I learned being on this show with you.

Kim Gravel: Well, I mean we're all in this together, but that is such a great, like should that be our sixth tip? I think that needs to be because I have five tips, but I'm telling you that's like the best tip of all you just said. I'm taking this insecurity that I have about. And I'm gonna mo, I'm gonna take. And I'm gonna make it something bigger than that.

So you took, you took what happened to you. Cuz life is not what you te how here you take it. It's how you make it. So you took that insecurity and you made it into something that now is a very powerful thing for you. And that experience has given you more confidence. Yes. It's not the action.

Zac Miller: No, it's the, it's not even the results.

Like I we're moving it, you know, I'm not even like, oh, suddenly I'm super strong. I'm just like, oh, I just, I see myself differently.

Kim Gravel: You've moved that piece of, of insecurity about that part of your life and you've placed it into. This, this other place where I'm gonna do something about it. And it's the experience from A to B.

 That's made you more confident?

Zac Miller: It has. And it's, and it's, ah, now I can actually, like, I walk into the gym and I'm not like super, like a wall. Like, I'm not like shrinking, you know what I mean? I'm not like intimidated by that space and by that place. And I think a lot of people who are listening to this probably feel that way.

Like, you walk into a gym and you're like, this place isn't my place, this isn't for me, this isn't, you know, and I felt that way. I totally felt that. And I don't know when it changed, but I fig, I realized it did change and like I miss it now. Like I've been, I was, we were sick last week and I didn't get to go to the gym and I missed it.

And I was like, that's weird. That's really weird.

Kim Gravel: See that? It's, that's weird. It's y'all, I'm telling you it's the lived experiences and how you take 'em from the column of take it and put it in the column of make it, and that's what gives you. Okay. Oh, Kim, I didn't know you were gonna coach me today. All right.

I'm well. No, it's so good. No, you coached yourself we're, it's so good.

Zac Miller: We're offscript. Kim. We're off script. Tell us five. He promised us five tips.

Kim Gravel: Hit me with the five tips. I've got five tips, I've got five tips. One is be kind to yourself, so I'm sure a lot of you listening. If you're like me, I make a mistake and I beat myself up over it over and over again.

Like, sometimes I'll wake up and have dreamt about it. You just harbor and hold onto these little mistakes. Maybe you've snapped, you know, you, you've been ugly to somebody at a drive-through or you've, you know, done something that is, is a mistake. Okay? Or you beat yourself up because of fill in the blank.

 Please. This day and forgive yourself for it and be kind to yourself. Show yourself some grace. It's so funny how much we think well, the haters and, and, and people are so, people are hate on me and they're mean to me. We are so much meaner to ourselves than anyone else could be mean to us.

So be kind to yourself. Kind of think of yourself as a. And would you sit there and berate and beat up verbally or emotionally or mentally? Would you say some of the things to a friend or even a total stranger that you say to yourself internally? No. So be kind to yourself. Number two. Don't compare yourself to others.

I think this is one of the biggest confidence killers on in the whole entire world. It's comparing yourself to others. I mean, research shows that comparing yourself to others, it causes feelings of envy, of low self-esteem, even depression. And so when we're scrolling or we are looking at, at, you know, our friends, our neighbors, or you.

You know, other kids at school and what they're doing and how they're achieving, and blah, blah, blah. That kind of comparison is a confident sucker. So don't compare yourself to other people. Just when you catch yourself doing it, don't do it. Don't do it. Here's your number three, Zac. Okay. Take care of yourself.

Good health, exercising, eating the best way you can. And if you can't, go through the McDonald's drive-through and pray for nutrition as you pull it out and eat it. Okay.

Zac Miller: This advice is a rollercoaster. This is going up in time. This one,

Kim Gravel: I've done it a minute a time. I'll take a number.

I'll take a 10 piece chicken nugget meal. Thank you.

Zac Miller: Oh, you like the chicken nuggets too? I love the chicken nugget. Oh gosh. Can't go with sweet. Can I have a second? Can I stick a second? Cuz this is, look, we have this platform and I don't use this. This is the most excited you've been all day. I don't use this platform all day very often.

Where are my chicken selects McDonald's. Where my chicken selects. Okay, how come you took the chicken selects off the menu. Bring the chicken, selects back. Thank you.

Kim Gravel: I second that. I second that.

Zac Miller: Thank you because those felt healthier. They definitely felt healthier.

Kim Gravel: I dunno if they were right.

It's all in your mind. It's all in your mind. But do take care of yourself. Can I just say this? Groom yourself. Get your brows done. Get a wax shave like me. Shave the whiskers off of your chin. Whatever you've gotta do, pull yourself. Pour into yourself. Really take time to just take care of yourself.

Ugh, that's a good one. Number four, spend time with people who make you happy, who bring joy into your life, who make you laugh. My sister is one of those people, I mean, if you want a shot of in the arm of laughter, she is, and. And she is, and you know what?

Zac Miller: She makes me happy too. I text her, she makes me happy.

Kim Gravel: Do you she, because she, again, you can't give what you don't have. She's fully confident in herself, but on top of that, she's full of joy. So she can give it like you can't give what you ain't got. So don't go find a negative Nelly and expect to have a good time. That's probably not gonna happen.

So find people who. Emanate joy and who just, who, who are just happy and, and, and nine times outta 10, those are people who are very confident and sometimes they're, they're, or at least they, they know how to have a good time and they know how to be present in the moment. So spend time with people who make you happy, who bring you joy.

And then lastly, I think the fifth and final one is do so. You enjoy every day, especially on national self-confidence day. Yes. Whether it be, you know, take a walk, whether it be, go get your favorite ice cream, whether it be, you know, you know, get a massage, get a facial, go get your nails done. Whether it be just taking a break, seeing your grandkids, your children, do something you enjoy.

And if it's just even the littlest things, start a text strain with your friends with funny memes. You know, take care. Do something, you know, self-care. Go get your nails. Whatever it is, do it. So those are the five tips I have for you to celebrate yourself on national self-confidence day. And, and, and it's just the little things in life, Zac.

It really is.

Zac Miller: It really is. And if you look, and if you could just do one of those, right. Just do one this Sunday. Right. Just do one of those things. Just do. Start there.

Kim Gravel: Find a funny meme and send it to us. I, I'm obsessed. I gotta show you this other one. Hold on. Lemme see.

Oh my gosh. Oh, we don't have time. We don't have,

Zac Miller: I gotta, right now, if you send us, if you send us just text, text the, text the number here, I'm gonna give you the number right now. Hold on. I'm te I'm giving, I'm giving the audience the number right now. They can text. I want to get memes to this number, dude.

4 0 9 1 3 6 4 6 oh. Whoever said, text me the funniest meme is gonna get so, I don't know what it is yet. Just I'm gonna No promises. It's gonna be something you're gonna, it's gonna be big. It's gonna be big. It's gonna be big. Kim sell is gonna be big, so it's actually gonna be big.

Kim Gravel: It's gonna be something substantial.

No, it is, but I tell you, life is hard. God is good and people are crazy, including myself. So we're gonna navigate this toge to together, y'all. I mean, we gotta support each other. We gotta support each other. And doing it just means. Taking that first step like Zac did, just let's do it. Doing it.

Zac Miller: All right.

Sounds good. All right, bye y'all.

Kim Gravel: Love y'all. Happy National Self-Confidence

Zac Miller: Day.

Happy National Self Confidence day, Kim. This is your jam. Bye everybody.

Kim Gravel: Bye y'all.

Zac Miller: Oh no. You have to do that.

Kim Gravel: But this is the thing, and I talk and I think, I think the audience thinks I don't love my kids or my husband. That's not the case. I just don't like them.

Zac Miller: I don't think that makes it better though, Kim.

Okay. Here, hold on. I actually, I just, just auto carted the self condiment, so

Kim Gravel: it's another kind of day self condiment.

Zac Miller: That's another kind of day.

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