The Power of a Decision

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Kim Gravel:

Hey, hey, hey, everybody. Kim Gravel , here we are live right here in the Bell Manor Studios, live, doing the podcast. I gotta say, Zac, you're here, right? Can you hear me? Can you hear me?

Zac Miller

I'm here, Kim. I'm here. Hello, hello, hello. I'm so excited to be live with you people.

Kim Gravel:

Zac. I like lives better. I just. I guess I'm just, like a person who's, like, built her chops in television and everything with live programming that it just. It feels risky and frisky to me. I don't know.

Zac Miller

Live is scary. It's risky and frisky to you. It's terrifying for me, so.

Kim Gravel:

Well, I know as you're producing, you're so methodical.

Zac Miller

I'm a planner. I'm like, what's going wrong? What's going to happen? But here we are, and we're live, and I love it. And you know what? Maybe we should do more of these. Kim, like, what do you think?

Kim Gravel:

I want to. Let's let the people answer. If you want to see us more live on Wednesday nights, hit us up and let us know. But I just want to say welcome to the Kim Gravel Show. Hopefully this is your weekly dose of encouragement, hope, and laughter. I got to say that I don't know. There's something about this subject that we're going to be talking about tonight that has been on my heart and mind. We're calling this episode of the podcast the Power of a Decision.

Kim Gravel:

And by the end of this episode, I'm going to give you a promise. By the end of this episode, you're going to know exactly how to make any decision with confidence, or at least you're going to be more empowered to make a decision, because hands up in the chat, there's so many people already, Zac. I can see so many people, like, coming on the chat. Tell me, hands up or say me, girl. Or if you have a problem or if there. Let's not say that. If there is a decision in your life right now that you need to make, that you've been putting off a really, really long time. And I've got so many stories to share with you about how this learning how to make decisions quickly and effectively and confidently has changed my life.

Kim Gravel:

And I hope some of the things I've learned through that will help you tonight. But I can't read the comments, Zac. Is anybody saying they can relate or is everybody just saying, hi, Kim.

Zac Miller

So a lot of people saying, hi, Kim. So many people are saying, hey, girl. Like, hands up. It's. It's all over. It's so funny, Kim. So look at this. So the one thing I did realize is when I put the thing up on the screen, you're wearing a dark shirt so people can't read it.

Zac Miller

So I'm going to have to fix that. So I'm going to do. This is my. Yeah, this is. Because this is amazing. Are you really live? Just premiering? We are really live.

Kim Gravel:

This is how we are really live. We are live and we wanna take your questions, your comments, your testimonies. However you want to reach out to us, please do it. We're talking about tonight on the live podcast, the Power of Decision. I'm writing a new book right now, and the book is entitled the Power of Decision. And there's so many. After I started writing the book, I started looking back on my life thinking, oh, my gosh. Everything in my life that has been really great has been based on a choice or decision of either.

Kim Gravel:

1. Like deciding to lose weight. Remember that? That was a really big episode for us in the podcast, Zac.

Zac Miller

That was one of our biggest episodes.

Kim Gravel:

Everybody would know, how did you lose huge? Yeah. How to lose weight. How to lose weight. And. And they were like, kim, what'd you do? I said, I just decided to. I've got a testimony about that. Another one was deciding to let go of something that, quite frankly, I enjoyed and loved and. And didn't hate.

Kim Gravel:

Like, it was a wonderful experience for me, but I had to let that go to be able to fly and be able to go to the next level in my life. So I'm gonna talk about that. You know, and making tough decisions is not always easy. It. I will say making easy. Making good for you decisions. I'm not saying this right. Hold on, let me.

Kim Gravel:

Let me phrase this the right way. It's so much. Okay, do I buy BMW or Mercedes? That's an easy decision. You know what I'm saying? That's not something tough. Do I stay at a job that I like, okay. And risk going out on my own to start a new business? A little bit tougher decision. Do I stay with this person who is financial security, who. Who I like that my relationship.

Kim Gravel:

To go and find someone that is my soulmate? That would be a tough decision. So we're talking about tonight, the power of a decision. And Zac, I gotta tell you, you're. Are you indecisive? I don't wanna speak for you, but I can kind of tell that I can kind of say something about you if you wanted me to.

Zac Miller

I am a Thousand percent. Yeah. I'm a thousand percent indecisive. I think you know that about me. I think you can speak for me, Kim, I love you 100%. 100%.

Kim Gravel:

We're that close. So tell me about. Let's start because everybody's in the chat. Is anybody in the chat saying anything like that? I need to be talking.

Zac Miller

Yeah, they are. Hold on, let me. Let me see if I can pull this up because I just. While you were talking. Okay, let me see.

Kim Gravel:

Zac, make the screen bigger for me. Oh, no, I can make it bigger for me. Hold the line.

Zac Miller

Here we go. Okay.

Kim Gravel:

There you go. That's how I like it.

Zac Miller

Can you see. Can you see the comment now on the screen, too?

Kim Gravel:

I loved your book. One of my top favorite books. Thank you so much. Yeah. This next one is going to be. You want to talk about the next book is. Because it's not about me and my life, it's about you and your life. So.

Kim Gravel:

Which hopefully the first book was a little bit more memoir. Making tough decisions, making the right decisions and making a decision at all. Because sometimes you have to make the wrong decision to get to the right one. And I think that's the biggest fear for people. I gotta read you this quote. We get started. This is so deep. This is from C.S.

Kim Gravel:

lewis, Mere Christianity. Listen to this quote. This is deep, y'.

Zac Miller

All.

Kim Gravel:

I want to kick it off of this. Wait a minute. Decisions are tough when you're on your own. Oh, yes. But they don't have to be. You got to continue watching this episode because I'm going to give you a three step trick tip secret to making good decisions. Okay, here we go. This is a quote by C.S.

Kim Gravel:

lewis. It's probably one of my all time favorite quotes. I kicked the book off with this quote. Listen, this is deep and we can break this down. Good and evil both increase at compound interest. I'm going to pause it there because that's.

Zac Miller

Okay. Yeah. I'm trying to process. Wait, look at me. Trying to process.

Kim Gravel:

I'm going to say it again.

Zac Miller

Say it again.

Kim Gravel:

I'm going to say it again. Good and evil both increase at compound interest. That is why the little decisions you and I make every day are of such infinite importance. The smallest good act today is the capture of a strategic point from which a few months later, you may be able to go on to victories you never dreamed about.

Zac Miller

Wow.

Kim Gravel:

Decisions are directional. Decisions have compound interest.

Zac Miller

Okay.

Kim Gravel:

Decisions have infinite importance. Even the smallest of decision that you make. So indecisiveness, if you struggle with indecisiveness. You need to listen to this podcast. If you struggle with making decisions, is it going to be good? Is it going to be bad? For me, is it going to. If you have confusion when it comes to making decisions, this is important tonight, because what C.S. lewis is saying, even the smallest of decisions we make in our life affect us in big ways in the future, both good and evil. They.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

And. And I love what he said about the compound interest. Who doesn't want compound interest? Any investment that you make, I want it compounded. Press down, shaking together, running over. I want all the good things that come from it. But making a decision that you've been putting off can make the difference in your life right now and in the future. So right now in the chat, you don't have to tell us what the decision is. I want you to be thinking about what is the one thing I have put off.

Kim Gravel:

Zac, can I start off telling my story?

Zac Miller

Oh, yeah, please tell your story. And by the way, can I just say, we already have 125 comments in the chat, so.

Kim Gravel:

Okay, good, good. This is.

Zac Miller

People are relating to this. Yeah, this is resonating. I'm trying to put them up as I can, but I think that. Let's. Let's hear your story, Kim. Let's do it.

Kim Gravel:

Okay. So. So when I had told this story to my book publisher, I told this story. They're like, you know, we want to do another book. I'm like, I know, but books are so hard. I got to have something to say. And so I was just talking. We just chat and kind of like brainstorm.

Kim Gravel:

And I was talking about my weight loss, and they had heard our podcast about how I lost my weight. And I will never forget this, Zac, because we had this podcast and I had lost like 37 pounds at the time, and everybody was blowing you up. What? Of course, I used factor, and I did, but that's not where the weight loss started. And remember, you said, kim, I don't know if we can do this podcast because you're just saying you lost your weight because you decided to. Do you remember that conversation?

Zac Miller

I do remember that. And. And it was like, you were like, people are going to be really mad about this.

Kim Gravel:

They're going to be mad at me. They're going to be mad at me because they're going to be like, that's so cheeseball. That's so, you know, hocus pocus. I just decided, you know, they're going to think it's totally cheesy. And. But it's so true. And so I began to tell my publisher and my book agent. I kept.

Kim Gravel:

I was telling her this story, and she said, oh, my gosh, I love this story because it's. I heard your podcast on it, and basically, if you haven't heard, you got to go back and listen to it, because I'm going to paraphrase it right now. So I journal. So I journal every day now. Granted, I've been missing it for, like, a couple of months because I've been. My life has been crazy, but I journal, I'd say two or three times a week for the last five years of my life consistently. And so one morning, I was just sitting there, and I was reading through my journal. I was writing in my journal.

Kim Gravel:

And I had written, you know, oh, yeah, bless the kids, or la, la la business. And not at all. And I said, and I just want to lose 20 pounds20. Lord, if you'll just help me lose this 20 pounds20. Blah, blah, blah. And just something. I got this bad taste in my mouth when I wrote it in my journal. And I've got the journal.

Kim Gravel:

I wish I'd have brought it tonight. Cause I'd have read it to. Maybe I'll put it in the book. But I got this, like, really disgusted feeling in. In, like, literally. It was visceral. I mean, I could just feel it. And I was sitting there thinking to myself, yeah, I say that a lot, that I need to lose 20 pounds.

Kim Gravel:

I have been saying it for as long as I can remember. So I started, like, reading. I just went back a couple of pages in my journal, and I said the same thing, written the same thing. I had gone back and pulled the journal out from the year before and went through journal entries, and I had said the same thing.

Zac Miller

Yep, yep.

Kim Gravel:

I went and pulled a journal from five years out. Like, I think it was like, 20, 20, 2019. Because I do a new journal every year. I had been saying, God, just help me lose 20 pounds for over five years every day. Wow, Y' all think of the madness of that.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

No, I mean, seriously, Zac, don't just be like, oh, my God. I mean, I want you to really, really, really, really think about what I'm saying, y'. All. For at least five years, almost every single day that I wrote in my journal, I said the same stupid thing. I just need to lose 20 pounds20. God, just help me lose 20 pounds20 that day. I said, this is madness. This is insanity.

Kim Gravel:

What is going on in my life? And I decided, sitting there that morning, I'LL never forget it. And I have the journal entry to prove it. I said, it stops today. I'm deciding I'm going to lose this 20 pounds. This narrative. I didn't even understand that I was saying the narrative over and over and over. It was just such a habitual thing for me to write. And honestly, as much as I was writing it on the paper, y', all, I was saying it to myself two or three times more than what I was writing in the paper every day, all day.

Kim Gravel:

So I was writing it and I was talking to myself every single day about losing the same 20 pounds for over five years. Now this is true. Amy can attest to this. I'm sure she's in the chat. Amy has known me for 20 plus years. Amy, please tell everybody how many years I've been saying I wanted to lose that 20 pounds. I'm not kidding you. Now this is not about losing 20 pounds tonight.

Kim Gravel:

And is anybody on the chat? Do I need to address anybody asking questions, Zac, before I keep going.

Zac Miller

Not a lot of questions. A lot of people co signing.

Kim Gravel:

You know, this is someone.

Zac Miller

Okay, so this is she, she wrote when I make a decision, it usually, it's usually the wrong one. And nothing goes my way. I believe the world's against. Sad but true.

Kim Gravel:

No, it's not. Okay, we're going to talk about this. Hold that, save that comment. Save it. We're going to come back to you because I, I, I'm telling you, you were doing your self sabotaging. And so we'll talk about that in a second. And I know that because I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm not a counselor. I'm none of those things.

Kim Gravel:

I'm speaking for personal experience. Boo boo. I'm telling you, you're self sabotaging because I did it too.

Zac Miller

Wait, Kim, you're gonna love this one. Wait, look at this one. Okay, Linda just wrote, I have this comment from your book, which I wrote on note and it's on my computer screen. Decisions decide destiny. There's no action without decisions. I look at it daily.

Kim Gravel:

Yeah, yeah. Well, I made the decision that day and you're so right. And I'm going to, I'm going to put that same quote, my own quote, on my sticky note on my computer too, because I need to hear that every day. There was a beautiful woman who came up to me at qvc. Gosh, she's just electric. She was electric and she came, she goes, I need you to write the word decide on a piece of paper because I'M gonna get it tattooed on my arm. I said what she said your podcast about decision. I'm like, go.

Kim Gravel:

I mean, she was like my age, in her 50s, absolutely gorgeous. She goes, that podcast.

Zac Miller

She wanted to. She wanted your. Literally the way you wrote it tattooed on her arm. Like, that was the.

Kim Gravel:

And unfortunately for her, I never know how to spell decision or decide. So it's one of those things, you know, you. Have you ever written out words and you're like, is that how it's spelled? Do you know what I'm saying? Like, I never spelled that word right. So I had. I would have to really look it up in the dictionary.

Zac Miller

It's like, it's like no regrets. Have you seen the no regrets tattoo? Like, someone had no regrets tattooed on their back, but it says it's spelled wrong. So it says no regrets, right? Yes.

Kim Gravel:

I mean, like, there's times I go, how do I spell what? How do I spell what? You know, I'm saying, like something like that. But she was serious. She was dead dog serious. She said that podcast changed her life. Because there is such power and decision. Um, and there's reasons that stop us from deciding. Fear of making the wrong decision. Like our, our comment that we just had making the wrong decision.

Kim Gravel:

We. I'm going to say something really, really deep right here. A lot of times we do before we decide. So for a lot of us, we are putting the cart before the horse, meaning we're taking action before we're deciding. Back to my weight loss. How many weight loss programs did I do? I did Weight Watchers, I did Locale, I did keto. I did all the, all the prepackaged meals. I did calorie restriction, but it wasn't what I was doing.

Kim Gravel:

It was the fact I hadn't decided to do anything first. Okay.

Zac Miller

Yeah. So, yeah, so it doesn't matter what action you took because you hadn't made the decision yet. Is that right, Kim? Is that, is that makes sense?

Kim Gravel:

So am I getting it right when you, you are. So there's a three step process. You have to decide design. I'll get to that. And then do. Most people do then design and then never decide. It's kind of like I was telling my dad. My dad fell into some, some, some really big health problems.

Kim Gravel:

He found himself in the ICU a couple of weeks ago, and thank God he's doing better. He's home and we're all, we're all moving forward. And I could slowly see him in the icu. He was kind of out of It. And then as. As they started treating a lot of his problems, his mind got sharper and better. And so by the time he left the icu, his mind was like. He was back to the old dad and he was getting frustrated.

Kim Gravel:

And I remember him sitting in his chair at the house, and I said, dad, your mind is made up. You've decided you're going to get better, and your mind is there. Your body has to catch up. And so that's what happens a long time. We move the body, we do the do. We get on the diet, we take the shots, we do the pills, we do the exercise, we pay all the money for the programs, but we've never decided. So our mind has not caught up. Our body is ahead of our mind.

Kim Gravel:

Does that make sense to everybody right now?

Zac Miller

That's. It's one of those things that kind of blows my mind, Kim. Right? So I'm trying to figure out all the things that I do that I am trying to achieve. I'm trying to, like, do. But, like, I haven't. I haven't made that decision yet. So it's not working, and I'm just fighting it. And every time you talk about this, I start, like.

Zac Miller

I really go to, like, a deep place, and I'm like, whoa, I'm doing this totally wrong. Kim is so right about totally wrong.

Kim Gravel:

Totally wrong. Because what happens when we get busy about our do? We don't leave room for, you know, Karen, I love her. We're going to have her on the podcast soon again. She's such a great life coach. You need to go check out her book Gilded. But she says you don't leave room for a vacuum. So when you're busy, you don't leave room for something good to come into your life. You don't leave something.

Kim Gravel:

So. So what I'm saying is we are a busy culture, and we think if we're not doing enough, then it won't happen. And what I'm saying is you've got to decide first that that's what's gonna. That's what happened to me. I said, I'm losing 20 pounds now. Let me tell you, I did not start the next day cutting back what I ate. I started. I kept my same diet for a week and started logging what I ate.

Kim Gravel:

And at that point, I was gathering intel. I made the decision, and then I gathered the intel instead of getting the intel and then gathering and then making the decision. Does that make sense?

Zac Miller

Yeah. So, wait, is this. Is this your methodology? Like, are you. Are you sharing Is this the secret? So you, so you make the decision, then you gather the intel, then you. So what did that look like? Wait, tell me what that actually looked like.

Kim Gravel:

Okay, so when I said sat there that morning, I'm like, I'm losing the 20 pounds. So I'm doing it. So I wrote that. I didn't say I need to. I said, I'm going to lose. I've lost the 20 pounds. I'm losing the 20 pounds . It's done.

Kim Gravel:

I've got it. I should have brought my journal. I. I'll post it then. Then I didn't go, okay, now I've got to start doing. I got to start calorie restricting on. I didn't know what I was going to do or how I was going to do it. I just decided to do it.

Kim Gravel:

So the next like three or four days, I started logging every single thing that I eat. I did not change a thing. I did not change where. I did not change my McDonald's drive through. I did not change my doordash order. I just started logging.

Zac Miller

Okay. Yep.

Kim Gravel:

And after a couple of days of that, I sat down and I reviewed my intel and I saw that I was eating over 4,000 calories a day.

Zac Miller

Wow.

Kim Gravel:

I mean, we are. Honest to God, it's a miracle that I was not 20 pounds350.

Zac Miller

Okay, so. Okay. And you had never, like, you had never done all the dieting, all that other stuff? You hadn't like, sort of tracked your calories or was that new?

Kim Gravel:

Did it a million times. Did it a million. I did. I did all the stuff. I've done everything there is to do to lose weight. Amy can attest to that in the chat. Done it all.

Zac Miller

Yep.

Kim Gravel:

It never worked because I didn't decide I was going to do it.

Zac Miller

Wow.

Kim Gravel:

I was. Okay, once you decide.

Zac Miller

Wait, can I, can I derail you for a second? Okay. Okay. Give me an example, because I have a question from somebody. I put it up on the screen a second.

Kim Gravel:

Just get. Let me give you an example. Have you ever had to make a tough decision in your life? And I'm telling, I'm talking to everybody watching. Have you ever had to make a tough decision in your life? It was going to take some time to get out of it, or maybe it was whatever. I don't know. I'm just giving an example. Maybe it was a marriage. You know, I don't wish divorce on anybody, but you decided to get divorced, but it was going to take you a hot minute to make it happen.

Zac Miller

Yep.

Kim Gravel:

But once you made the decision. You felt like 20 pounds lighter of a weight has been lifted off your body once you made that decision. Did you just. I'm saying there was a weight. It was. It was a weightlifted. That's the power of a decision.

Kim Gravel:

You weren't divorced yet, but you all already felt lighter. I hadn't lost the weight yet, but I already felt lighter. There is a power in making a decision that has to happen before actual, real, lasting, infinite change can happen.

Zac Miller

Oh.

Kim Gravel:

The great thing about it is once you make a decision, the interest compounds. The more power you get, the more of a return you get. And that's what comes to number two. So after the decision was made, I started collecting my intel, and then most people take that intel and then they want to skip over step two and go to step three, which is do. Nope. Okay, there's a middle step. There's a middle step.

Zac Miller

What's. Wait, tell us. Tease the middle step, Kim, because then I think we're gonna stop for a quick second and talk about our sponsor. But can you. Can you tease the middle step for a second?

Kim Gravel:

Nope. Nope. The middle step you have to listen to after we do this little quick ad, you have to listen because the second step is the one everybody's missing. Okay.

Zac Miller

Okay. First of all, this is something we've never done on the show before, by the way. We've never tried to, like, do an ad during a live broadcast. So let's see how. Kim.

Kim Gravel:

Well, I'm doing it right now. Let me just tell you, because, I mean, honestly, factor was part of my do. It was part of my weight loss journ. And it's kind of a secret of my weight loss because between my busy schedule and my summer plans, it feels like I never had time to cook. So I used to blame that before I decided. I used to blame that on why I couldn't lose the weight. But factor really did help me with my do. That's why the factor was a total game changer for me.

Kim Gravel:

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Kim Gravel:

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Kim Gravel:

Make sure you use my code, though, Kim 50 off to get 50% off. And you get free shipping on your first box. So that's code, Kim 50 off. @factormeals.com for 50% off plus free shipping, you get. They're delicious. Ready to eat meals delivered to your door with factor. And it is not a shameless plug because it absolutely works. So back to step two.

Kim Gravel:

Step two.

Zac Miller

That was awesome, by the way. Thank you for paying the bills. Thank you for paying the bills.

Kim Gravel:

And, like, no, I have TV every day.

Zac Miller

Can I just. I never get to chime in on the ads. I love factor too.

Kim Gravel:

It's so good.

Zac Miller

It's like when those boxes come, I'm just like, yes, I have lunches. Like, good.

Kim Gravel:

Yeah. Well, you don't have to think about it.

Zac Miller

It's so good. I just. I never get a chance to do this. So we're live, and I wanted to do that. Yeah. Okay, tell me, tell me step. Tell me the next step.

Kim Gravel:

Step two is. So you've got. You've decided you're collecting your intel. Step two is design. This is where people mess up. This is where people don't sit and really, really dream. Think. Imagine what they want.

Kim Gravel:

Most people act before they decide. They do before they decide. And then they start doing. And then all of their fears come true because they have not thought it through.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

Okay. And then what happens is when you decide, and like our friend said, she makes the wrong choices, so she thinks everything is. Is coming against her. I promise you, it's because you're not doing step number two.

Zac Miller

Okay?

Kim Gravel:

You're moving to action too quick. So remember, you're deciding, you're designing, and then you're doing. And what happens is after we decide, we take massive action without really thinking it through.

Zac Miller

Okay, wait, because you've talked about how taking massive action can actually be a good thing. Like, that's what you want people to do at a certain point, but not yet, is what you're saying.

Kim Gravel:

It is. It is. It is. And what? There. There is this study I studied about this topic called the paralytic rat.

Zac Miller

Okay?

Kim Gravel:

And the paralytic rat is they would take this maze and put this rat in, and they put food on one side and they put a little electric shock on another. Totally mean. But hey, I see what they're doing. So every time the rat would find the food.

Zac Miller

Yep.

Kim Gravel:

Okay. And it would eat it, and then it would come back, and then it would sit there, and then they would let it loose again and it would go back to the food side, but the scientists switched it. So now that the. He put the zapper where the food was.

Zac Miller

That's.

Kim Gravel:

And so the rat would get zapped. Totally evil. And so then you come back to the center and it kept doing the. The scientists kept doing that over and over and over again. It got so bad that the rat wouldn't go. When they. When they let the rat loose, just. Even Even though there was food there somewhere, it wouldn't do anything.

Kim Gravel:

It was paralyzed.

Zac Miller

Whoa.

Kim Gravel:

Just sat there.

Zac Miller

Whoa. Okay.

Kim Gravel:

That's what's. That's. That's what's wrong with most people when it comes to decision.

Zac Miller

Okay.

Kim Gravel:

They're paralyzed. They're like, it never works out. It's not going to work out. Every time I decide, something happens. You might have paralytic rat syndrome, and it's a real thing. And so instead of, like, deciding to give your heart away, fall in love, you just don't do anything because you're not risking it. Instead of quitting that job and going and stepping into your destiny, you decide, I'm not going to risk it. What if it doesn't work out?

Zac Miller

It's uncertainty, right? Yeah. It's the fear of.

Kim Gravel:

It's not even uncertainty. It's. I've messed up before, I cannot mess up again.

Zac Miller

Right. Wow. So, all right, so how do we get out of that, then? That's like, I see some of that tendency in my own life, and I'm starting to feel like a rat in a maze. So that's not making me feel good, Kim. Make me feel good, Kim.

Kim Gravel:

We've got to design our lives. We have to be co creators with the creator for our lives. There is something really, really great out there for you, I promise you.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

And Cindy, she says, what decisions do paralyze me. I get it. Because you've been burnt, baby. You've been burnt. But this is it. This is your time to decide what you want. Maybe it is. Let's just go back to weight loss because it's simple.

Kim Gravel:

And hands up, if we all struggle with this, I don't care how old you are and what sex you are, if you're female or female, we all struggle with this. So say it is to lose weight. And we're so paralyzed, and so we just don't make any decision at all, because we think, I've done it a million times. It never happens. I've tried everything. I can't feel. I've tried everything. It never happens.

Kim Gravel:

What was the difference between me, what made the difference with me and that young, gorgeous woman who came to me at QVC and said she lost weight? She had found a new job. She is now a makeup model for some of the brands at qvc. Because she decided, because it compounds when you make good decisions, it compounds interest. So one good thing happened. One good thing. It's because she decided and then she sat down and designed her life, what she wanted it to look like. So when I decided to lose weight and I did my intel, counting the calories, I started seeing myself thinner, healthier, wearing a size 10, my face slim, my everything. I saw myself that way.

Kim Gravel:

I started designing what kind of clothes I would want to be wearing, how I want to see myself in the mirror. I started designing what I was going to eat, the yummy foods and snacks I was going to replace with all the junk food. That is such an integral part of the decision making process that we miss. It's the fun part. The do part's not fun. That's work. Making the decision. We're scared to death because we're afraid it's going to be the wrong decision.

Kim Gravel:

It's the design part that we are not doing. And Kim just says, I feel like I'm lazy. I have no desire to do anything. That sounds so good.

Zac Miller

This sounds so good.

Kim Gravel:

Yeah, you do have the desire or you wouldn't even put that on there.

Zac Miller

Yep. Yeah. And look at this one. I think you missed this one Sherry wrote. Read Sherry's Kim, because you're going to love this.

Kim Gravel:

I made the decision over two years ago to open my heart back up for love, and I haven't been happier. Yeah, right. But what I'm saying is, y', all, Sherry did this. She made the decision, and then she opened her heart. But I would say even before you open your heart, design what you want that to look like for your life. Like, I. I'm. I'm starting a new business, which you're like, Zac, you're probably like, Kim, are you insane? But I'm gonna tell you what it is.

Kim Gravel:

I'm not gonna tell you what it is, but I decided to do it, like, over a year ago.

Zac Miller

Just kidding.

Kim Gravel:

No, you cannot, because I won't even begin to tell you. So I decided to do it over a year ago, and I. I actually tried it A couple of ways and it didn't work. And then I was talking to Karen and she's like, you didn't take the time to dream about it and really think it through. You just went to the immediately to do. Because I'm telling you, we're all busy, addicted, me included. I'm the worst culprit of them all. And so I took about a week and just did nothing on the project and decided I'm going to really think about what I want with this project.

Kim Gravel:

And when I took time to design and co create and really think about what I wanted and how I wanted it to look and didn't try to make it work, just dreaming about it working, it just, it just happened. It just, it showed itself, you know, I left time enough for it to appear. So when you're leaving yourself open to love, you're not filling it with a bunch of dates you've decided to. I mean, Amy's just done that recently. She's decided I'm going to get married. Because our job is not to make it happen. Our job is to be open to it happening.

Zac Miller

So is this like visualizing and manifesting and that kind of thing? Is that sort of where you're.

Kim Gravel:

It's really designing though. I mean, do some exciting, like writing about it, dreaming about it, talking about it, speaking it out, also reading about it. Like learn whatever it is that you are deciding to do. And this works also in the reverse meaning maybe you're deciding to let go. Maybe you're deciding on having a hard decision to make with your personal life in a business or a job or a relationship or, you know, whatever. You still have to design what that looks like too. And then lastly, but certainly not least, you gotta take massive action.

Zac Miller

Okay, that's the massive action I was looking for. I knew that was coming.

Kim Gravel:

Massive.

Zac Miller

That the, the term take massive action, Kim, is something that, since you first said it to me, I think about it like it lives rent free in my brain to say it the way that the kids would say it these.

Kim Gravel:

You know what I'm talking about, don't you?

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

Like you do.

Zac Miller

Yeah, I do.

Kim Gravel:

Because this is the thing. My motto is fearless decide more.

Zac Miller

Ooh.

Kim Gravel:

So the young woman who put in there, I make always make the wrong decisions. Blah. You know, that's why I feel like everything is, is, you know, working against me. Girl, you are far along than you think. Because most people don't even make decisions. Yeah, they're the paralytic rat. I'M here to give you encouragement and say, girl, at least you making some, right? And I bet the reason why you think they're the wrong ones is because you're not designing that. That part you need to work on.

Kim Gravel:

But, babe, you're making decisions. Good for you. That is fantastic. That is step one down. Now, before you go to step three, go to step two. But for those of you who get what I'm saying, take massive action as soon as that designing part happened with this new business. Or let's go back to the weight loss. As soon as I decided I was going to lose weight, I collected my intel.

Kim Gravel:

Then I started designing what I wanted it to look like, feel like, be like, show up, like, in the world. Then I started doing. I started cutting my calories. I started replacing bad snacks with good snacks, and I didn't do it all at once. And then all of a sudden, two and a half months later, I was 37 pounds down. And it was, like, so easy. It was the easiest thing I've ever done. Now put ten pounds back on, and we gonna be praying about that.

Kim Gravel:

But I'm just saying, like, I. You know, of course I'm hormonal. I'm up and down. But I'm just saying, like, I'll never get back to that again, ever.

Kim Gravel:

It's just a different way of looking at it. This is just a decision I made, and just like, hey, and if you fall off the horse, I'm just going to decide to get back up again, reset, redesign, and redo.

Zac Miller

Wow. So, okay, so once you decide, like, once you've. You. So walk me through the steps, Kim, because I want, like, we're. We're going to wrap this up pretty soon. I want everyone to have an understanding of, like, this is your three. Is it three steps. See, I'm already lost.

Kim Gravel:

Three steps.

Zac Miller

Okay. Okay.

Kim Gravel:

Design and do. So decide. Make the decision. Whatever decision you've been putting off or there's. And whatever that. Okay, so for me, it was loser, 20 pounds, whatever narrative has been going over in your mind or in your journal for the past two or three years, and you know what I'm talking about. There's. There's a couple of things in our life, probably one main thing that you.

Kim Gravel:

That goes over and over that narrative that plays over and over and over and over in your mind, and nine times out of ten, it is related to something you need to decide to do for yourself.

Zac Miller

Yeah. Maybe 10 times out of 10. I. Yeah, for. For me, I. For you. You can. You Find life.

Kim Gravel:

Okay.

Zac Miller

Yeah. Yeah. Tell me what. You tell me what I. What I need to do.

Kim Gravel:

No, you. What's the one thing for you, Zac, that you. What's thing?

Zac Miller

I think, if I'm being honest, I think the one thing for me is like, showing up, figuring out how to show up for myself. Like, you know, I show up with you on the show, and I love doing it, but I have so much trouble, like, hitting record and filming myself and putting myself out there when it's just me, just for me, just my stuff. I try, and then I don't really do it, and I just. I haven't gotten. I don't know what's stopping me, you.

Kim Gravel:

Know, because you're trying and not deciding.

Zac Miller

Oh, man. See, that's so hard. And someone just commented.

Kim Gravel:

What did you say? There's no try. There's do. There's only do.

Zac Miller

I would say, yeah, do or do not. There is no.

Kim Gravel:

I showed it.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

Yeah. There is no try. It's decide or decide not. There is no try.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

Quit trying.

Zac Miller

Wait, this is. This. This one. This one got me. Look at this. Look at this comment.

Kim Gravel:

Kim, what does it say? I was never encouraged to make my own decisions or set goals. Is there hope for me at 62? Not only is there hope, there is massive change coming for you, Cindy. If you just. If you just decide, decide tonight, that's it. And it doesn't have to be. It doesn't have to be something that's this monumental thing. I think the reason the weight loss happened, that was just something that God used to really wake me up, because I did not even understand or comprehend how much negativity and what kind of narrative I kept telling myself about that 20 pounds20 over and over and over. Because I don't do it just with the 20 pounds20.

Kim Gravel:

There's a lot of things I do that beat yourself over the head with the same old story stuff. And when you draw a line in the sand, you literally draw a line in the sand, and it might not change immediately. It took me three months, almost three months to lose the weight. But the change happened here. Then it happened here in my heart, and then it happened in my body. Remember I said to my dad, your mind is there. You got to give your body time to catch up. Same with decision.

Kim Gravel:

Once the mind makes the decision, the heart and the body will follow. We try to get the body and the heart to move before the head has made a decision that is. That is logical. Right? You understand that? Everybody understands that, right?

Zac Miller

Yeah. There's so Many comments. There's so many comments coming in. There's so many people who are agreeing with you. Are people saying, I hope so.

Kim Gravel:

You don't think on all.

Zac Miller

We're on all. We're on three different platforms, and yeah, I'm telling you.

Kim Gravel:

Does that make sense, though? Can I repeat it? Does everybody understand what I'm saying?

Zac Miller

Repeat it.

Kim Gravel:

When I told my dad, your mind is made up, but your body's got to catch up. So. So you have to understand when you make decisions, your mind got to be made up. The heart will follow and the body will follow what we've been doing. Tell you something. I told my kids it's about sex. Oh, here we go. Because, you know, my going to college on Saturday with drunk mom.

Kim Gravel:

I said, babe, the reason. The reason people get in trouble is because they give their body away sexually first. Then when you do that emotionally, you give your heart away, and then you marry him and 10 years later go, what the crap did I do? I want a divorce. I said, think with your mind first. Are we aligned? Does this person believe like I believe? Do they have the same kind of morals and values as I? Decide with your mind first, then give your heart to them, fall in love with them, and then when you get married, hopefully, then you give your body away. We do everything backwards. We're body, heart, then mine. You got to be mind, heart, then body.

Kim Gravel:

That's why my body never followed with the weight loss, because my mind was not made up. That's. That's logic.

Zac Miller

Yeah, that makes sense to me. And it's so much. You know, the other thing I think that we haven't talked about as much today, but you've said in the past is like, kind of being addicted to that struggle. Right. Like feeling like the struggle, like someone that wants to lose weight, talking about it. Yeah. That defines you, and it's scary to get rid of that.

Kim Gravel:

Yeah, it's a bad habit, too. It's. It's. I mean, because we are such an addictive. We're really not. We're really not addicted. We've just. We've just decided to stay there.

Kim Gravel:

Oh, God. That's a whole nother podcast.

Zac Miller

That's a whole other podcast. Let's, let's.

Kim Gravel:

Let's. I was not addicted to sugar. I was not addicted to sugar. I was addicted to the struggle of wanting the sugar. But that's a whole nother level. So if you can just, like. If we can just like, scratch the surface with this, we're going to decide, and then we're going to help design what that looks like after the decision has been made and designing might be okay. I've got to, you know, start looking for another job because this one's not fulfilling me.

Kim Gravel:

I'm not saying don't do. Don't quit it tomorrow. Once you decide, then you can't pay your bills. So once, like, say you want a job change, decide you're going to do the job change, then start designing it. What does that look like? If I could go get another job. What is my dream career? What is my dream job? What is my dream salary? What am I worth? What value do I add? Start designing and then do the doing. Then go look, then go put your resume out there. I hope I'm making sense.

Zac Miller

Oh, you're totally making sense. Yep. Yeah, I feel like, yeah, people are talking about, like, their habits. They're talking about, like, we're creatures of habit. This is, It's. This is such powerful stuff because it's so. So just like it's changed my life. Who we sort of are as.

Zac Miller

As people.

Kim Gravel:

We are creatures of habit, but we can also change our habits, too. I'm just saying, y', all, the power of decision will change your life. And when you make a good decision and you make the right decision, there is compound interest to that.

Zac Miller

Yes. Right back to compound interest. Yes.

Kim Gravel:

I love compound interest.

Zac Miller

Yeah, you do.

Kim Gravel:

Money's a whole nother podcast, too.

Zac Miller

All right, we need to do more of these lives. Everyone, if you would come back on Wednesday evenings with us to do these lives, Let us know in the comments because we would love that. Can we do something fun, Kim? Can we lighten this up? I'm going to make you give homework at the end and tell people what they need to do to take the first step toward making a decision. But before that. Okay, I thought it would be really fun if we did a rapid fire questions from the people from our chat. So chat right now if you're in the chat.

Kim Gravel:

Okay. Okay.

Zac Miller

Give Kim a rapid fire question. And if you watch the show, you know what these are. But, like, these are silly. These are fun questions. That would be fun.

Kim Gravel:

Whatever.

Zac Miller

There's nothing. Whatever you want.

Kim Gravel:

Anything you want.

Zac Miller

So. Oh, yeah, I'm getting lots of people saying yes, yes, more lives. That's what we want.

Kim Gravel:

Okay, we'll do more.

Zac Miller

Heck, yes. Yes, yes, yes. So start thinking about rapid fire questions. I'm going to start. I'm going to give you your first one, Kim, if that's okay.

Kim Gravel:

Okay.

Zac Miller

But first, wait, we're going to Officially start it with this new. With this new stinger I had made.

Zac Miller

How about that? How about that?

Kim Gravel:

I love rapid fire. Yeah, I think fast. I don't think smart, but I think fast. Go ahead.

Zac Miller

Here we go. Okay, Kim, if you were an animal, what animal would you be?

Kim Gravel:

Ooh, I would be a lioness.

Zac Miller

Ooh. Okay.

Kim Gravel:

I wouldn't be a dude. I wouldn't be a lion. I'd be a lioness. I would. Because they are fierce. When Travis and I went to South Africa, he won a trip on a fantasy tennis league online. I mean, really? Believe me, he ain't gonna pay for that trip. Oh, yeah.

Kim Gravel:

It was trip of lifetime. He won it on an online fantasy tennis league, and we went to South Africa. And those lionesses, they don't play that lion. Don't even mess with a lioness. She will tear your tail up. So that's what I would be. That or a hummingbird.

Zac Miller

Okay. Okay, here's the next one from the chat. How old were you when you started your first business?

Kim Gravel:

Well, you know what? I've had that question before. I was 46 when I started my business. So all these people who say, I'm 60, you can. I was 46. But I think the entrepreneur spirit hit me when I was in the fifth grade because I played a talent show, and I put the band together, and I want. I asked them for part of the kitty because people paid to enter the talent show, and since we won afterwards, I asked them to give me my percentage of the entrance of the audience fees that paid to get in there. So I think I was kind of entrepreneurial, like, in the fifth grade. But my very first business was 46.

Zac Miller

Okay. Still writing song lyrics?

Kim Gravel:

Yeah, we still write some. I mean, I make them up on qvc, but, yeah, I mean, gosh, we had. Amy, how many. We had five albums full of songs. Yep.

Zac Miller

Okay, here's one. Were you popular in high school? I like this one.

Kim Gravel:

You know what? That's a good story. That's a good question. Because my son. I'm dropping my son off, and I got a story for this. I'm dropping my son off at college. Y' all pray for me. Any advice? He's. We're dropping him off Saturday.

Kim Gravel:

He's like, mom, I've only got three days to go. And inside, I'm like, oh, God, we got three days. And I'm going, oh, yeah, you're gonna kill it. I'm trying to be positive. And up and inside. I'm so, like, gonna miss the dookie out of him. But my. My.

Kim Gravel:

A guy. A dude I graduated high school with. Hey. Damon Harris. He is one of the executives at the college. But I was going to. When we did his college visit, he chased me down. I was like, Kim Hardy.

Kim Gravel:

And it was, like, a surreal experience. And so my son said. My mom said there was no cliques in high school, and was she popular in high school? And he goes, david said to my son, your mom is wrong. There was all kinds of cliques in high school, and everybody knew who your mother was. So I don't think I was popular. Like, I was not a cheerleader or anything like that. But I. You know, I was loud, so people knew who I was.

Zac Miller

Okay. I love that. I love the. Like, I was loud. People knew who I was. Okay, here's. I have a. We have so many.

Zac Miller

Let's make these really rapid. Okay. These are gonna be quick.

Kim Gravel:

Okay. So shut up. I have to say it's okay.

Zac Miller

Just. Just ready, set, just go.

Kim Gravel:

I got it.

Zac Miller

Okay. Would you ever go back to dark hair?

Kim Gravel:

Yes.

Zac Miller

Okay. Favorite place to go on vacation?

Kim Gravel:

Turks and Caicos.

Zac Miller

Turks and. Oh, lovely. Favorite flower.

Kim Gravel:

Oh, God, there's so many.

Zac Miller

This is not rapid enough. Kim. You're.

Kim Gravel:

You are a rose. A rose.

Zac Miller

Oh, favorite. Favorite food.

Kim Gravel:

Oh, God. A hot dog.

Zac Miller

Okay. Love that. Have you ever seen. Wait, I just. As an aside, have you ever seen that, like, skit where it's like, a doctor talking to a man and he's like, how many hot dogs do you eat in a day? And the guy's like, well, I have, like, a couple for breakfast and, like, one on the way to work and, like, three for lunch.

Kim Gravel:

I love a good hot dog.

Zac Miller

Yeah, it's very good hot dog. Anyway, sorry. This was my weird world. Okay, who would you want to have lunch with from history? That's a really good one.

Kim Gravel:

Oh, that is a really good one. I think there's two. Can I say two people. I'd love to sit down and talk to Steve Jobs, because I think he had an aha moment on his deathbed. And then I would love to talk to Margaret Thatcher.

Zac Miller

Okay. Those are great ones. Yeah, that would be really good. Okay, here's the next.

Kim Gravel:

And of course, Jesus and of course, like, Mary Magdalene. Okay, I'm done.

Zac Miller

Okay.

Kim Gravel:

That would be a good dinner party. Steve Jobs. Mary Magdalene, Jesus and Margaret. Thatcher. I think that's a great dinner party.

Zac Miller

That's amazing. Yeah, just, you know, you let Jesus bring the wine. It'll be great. Other than your clothes, you can turn.

Kim Gravel:

The water into wine, honey.

Zac Miller

Right.

Kim Gravel:

You can turn the water into wine.

Zac Miller

Other than your clothing line, what's your favorite brand to wear?

Kim Gravel:

Oh, I like anything from White House Black market.

Zac Miller

Oh, I don't. I've never even heard of that.

Kim Gravel:

But I mean, I also like Ted Baker, but I think he's gone out of business. Yeah, there's. There's. And everybody. I also like at qvc, I like to order Peace Love World. I love me some Alita de la Sante and Peace Love World.

Zac Miller

Alina's in the chat right now, FYI.

Kim Gravel:

Is she really? Yeah, I absolutely love Peace Love. Y' all have got to go check her. It's so modern and cool, but wearable trend. I love me some Peace Love World.

Zac Miller

Oh, that's so fun. Okay, favorite candy?

Kim Gravel:

Okay, this is a weird one, but I just bought it the other day and had it. Fifth Avenue bar. Have y' all ever had a Fifth Avenue? That's an old school candy.

Zac Miller

That's very bougie.

Kim Gravel:

It. No, it's not fancy. It's just total, like, fab. It's crunchy and chewy. I love it. Or whatchamacallit. I love me a whatchamacallit. Or Peppermint Patty.

Kim Gravel:

I love to taste the sensation. Okay, stop, because I'm. Now I'm hungry.

Zac Miller

You're not a car person, but maybe do you have a fantasy car? This is an interesting question.

Kim Gravel:

A fantasy car? Yeah, Amy's car. She's got a really nice Mercedes, and it was. It's like, sporty. And so we went and bought it, and she was like, I don't know if I like it. I said car, of course. She's so indecisive. I was like, I'm just going to let you know, if you don't buy it, I'm. I'm leaving with that car.

Zac Miller

You said you were going to steal it from her. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

Kim Gravel:

Here and then Florida.

Zac Miller

I was going to say. Yeah, in Florida.

Kim Gravel:

Split it. Oh, yeah. I love Florida.

Zac Miller

We're gonna have to differ on that.

Kim Gravel:

One, Kim, don't you think? I. I'm a kind of a weirdo person. Like, I, you know, I would fit in Florida. It's like, it's very eclectic in Florida. That's why I love it. All kinds of people are in Florida. I love it.

Zac Miller

Florida has a bad rap. I like to make fun of Florida. I'll. I'll hold my tongue for.

Kim Gravel:

Florida is not a bad. It's fantastic. I love it's. So. There's so many different types of people. So different everything. It's great.

Zac Miller

How do you maintain your stamina on a TSV day? It's incredible, y'.

Kim Gravel:

All. I don't. Thank you for saying that. I don't know. I just love it. I love and hate it at the same time. Like, because I'm always complaining. I'm that type of person.

Kim Gravel:

I'm telling you, they just. Look, there's too much. Then I'm on there going, oh, my God. Because I love being with y', all and I love the chat. I love Amy telling me about the chat. I love the host. I just love having fun. I love it.

Zac Miller

Oh, my gosh.

Kim Gravel:

I crash afterwards, though. Truly am just, like, afterwards.

Zac Miller

We have so many comments coming in. Like, we have so many questions. I'm sorry for everyone who I came up to. All right. This one's going to get you that. Well, we're doing it really fast. This one's going to get you in trouble, maybe. Who's your favorite host to work with on qvc?

Kim Gravel:

Oh, God. It depends on what I'm. If it's beauty, if it's apparel, I gotta give you Mary D. Come on now. Of course, Rachel. If it's apparel, like, I love me some Alberti.

Zac Miller

Okay.

Kim Gravel:

For different. There's. I have a lot of favorites, but for different reasons. Like, for beauty, I absolutely love Sandra. I mean, it's so Sean Kellinger. Come on. That girl Cassell. Isoneskimo.

Kim Gravel:

And Sean is fun. But we tell you something about Shawn Killinger. You got to be on your toes like she is. She thinks fast. So does Mary D. They. I mean, you have to be. You can't.

Kim Gravel:

Those hosts are fierce.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

Like, you got to be on your game to be with certain kind of host.

Zac Miller

Every time we've met a QVC host, I'm like, wow, these folks aren't you. Like, it's impressive. They're. They're just pros at a level that, like, you wouldn't believe. Okay.

Kim Gravel:

I had to jump into for a long time. Zac.

Zac Miller

No, Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

I mean, you get it.

Zac Miller

It is really impressive. Okay. There's. There's some people. Okay. People are asking for your celebrity CR Crush. I'll save that one till the end, but let me.

Kim Gravel:

I said, I'm so sorry. Yeah.

Zac Miller

Favorite pizza topping.

Kim Gravel:

This is weird, but pineapple. I'm in love with pineapple and pizza. Now.

Zac Miller

You're 100% right. That's like, thank you.

Kim Gravel:

Thank you. It's crunchy, it's sweet. Now you have to have pepperoni with it. But it's so good. Okay.

Zac Miller

Yes. Okay. I like this one. And then we're going to. We're gonna. Someone asked this question in a really funny way for the next one, but what era in time would you like to visit if you could time travel? That's a good question.

Kim Gravel:

Oh, I, I, I think probably. Oh, I'm into gilded age right now, y'. All. If you have not seen that show, you've got that show.

Zac Miller

Great. I'm really into it. I've been super good. Yeah, I would probably.

Kim Gravel:

I would be miserable with the corsets and all that. And of course, I don't have the hair for that time period. But it would be that time period, which I don't know what it is. I mean, it's come in New York bus. I think it just would be glamorous. Yeah, but you need the money.

Zac Miller

You need to invent a clock or something and get rich. And if you watch the show, you know what that reference is.

Kim Gravel:

Exactly. You know that reference.

Zac Miller

Okay, here's my favorite way of asking this. We should start asking this this way now. Who's your hall pass.

Kim Gravel:

Honey? I ain't got no hall pass. I ain't got time to cry as much less some other person.

Zac Miller

All right, so who's. So then who's your celebrity crush?

Kim Gravel:

I'm gonna say it to everybody. You'd have to shave, you'd have to tan. You'd have to do. I ain't got time for no hall pass. I do not have time for that. I'm not trying to fall in bed with somebody else. I'm not kidding, y'. All.

Kim Gravel:

And this is true story. I. That sounds like a lot of work. I'll just make out with Travis Heavy and then kiss him good night. I ain't got time for all of that.

Zac Miller

Oh, my gosh. That's okay. But who's your celebrity crush then? And answer that, who's your celebrity crushee?

Kim Gravel:

Charlemagne. Timothy. Charlie. I love him. You know, his jawline.

Zac Miller

I've been meaning to put a cougar sound effect on the soundboard for weeks just for, just for this stage in your life right now. Kim. I.

Kim Gravel:

Can I just say something to all you women out there? I have started as I've gotten older and tell me if y' all have done this too. I have started appreciating really good looking men. Like, I've never been. Like, I've never chased boys. Honestly, I can't deal with it. I mean, I love. I Love my husband. He's so.

Kim Gravel:

And he did something this week that turned me on. He said something so manly. We were talking in the con. I don't know why I'm telling this. Actually, Amy was on the phone when he did it and he said, he was like, I just told Kim it's enough. She's not wearing herself out anymore. It's enough and we're not doing it. And I was just like, dang, I'm gonna make out with you tonight.

Kim Gravel:

Of course I didn't. We were so tired. I'm just saying there's something about that kind of like just take charge. Like, take charge. Anyway, I don't know why I said that. Now I'm getting excited and sweaty.

Zac Miller

Okay, okay, okay.

Kim Gravel:

Anyway, but I want to say I've been really kind of noticing like really good looking men lately. Not in that kind of way. Just. I don't know why I'm saying that. So maybe that somebody's needing to hear that and, and sharing that. I don't know why I started down that path. Anyway, what's next question?

Zac Miller

I, I, that I, I think that's it. I think that's, I mean, we're, there's still questions, but we'll, we'll do it next time. You gotta come back for more questions.

Kim Gravel:

Leave it on that one. Let's give me.

Zac Miller

Oh my gosh. Let me. Oh, someone asked and I don't have. Maybe I do have it up. Let's see. Oh, okay. Are you ever going to plan a cruise girl trip?

Kim Gravel:

We are. We have to do it. It will be epic. It will be the way the Titanic should have ended, which would arrive to the port. Everybody's just full shopped and happy. I mean, we got to do it. We got to do a cruise, y'. All.

Kim Gravel:

If we did that, can you imagine that boat would be rocking. We don't need no waves, honey. We make the waves. We're going to do it, right?

Zac Miller

If we did that, it would be like the one place in the whole world where like I would be a celebrity, right? Like people would know who I am. And that would be. I would probably enjoy.

Kim Gravel:

That would totally be cougarized.

Zac Miller

I would be cougarized. I would probably bring my wife and my kids and be like, no, no, no, no, no, no cougars.

Kim Gravel:

And she wouldn't care. She would like, take him go just let you talk to her. We ain't got time for. We will definitely do something. We're either a destination or a cruise or something. We're working on it. Please Know that we are working on it.

Zac Miller

Would you be down to do a Kim of Queens revival show? This is really the last question. We said we're gonna go for 45 minutes. Can we win for an hour? So this is it.

Kim Gravel:

This is the last question, everybody. Yes. Yes. Yeah, I have an eight o', clock, nine o' clock show tonight. Yes. Everybody's asking for a Kim of Queens revival show. The girls are grown. But I gotta tell you, the message of that show lives on.

Kim Gravel:

You cannot beat the message.

Kim Gravel:

You can't beat it.

Zac Miller

Yeah.

Kim Gravel:

And that's what this episode tonight was about, is the power of decision. Decide and choose yourself. Design the life you want, and then start getting busy and doing it.

Zac Miller

I'm telling you, give us homework. Give us a homework assignment.

Kim Gravel:

Decision.

Zac Miller

Give us a homework assignment, everybody.

Kim Gravel:

I don't know if anybody has been talking about the decisions they need to make in their. In their lives in the chat. Write that down and let's make a decision to move forward with whatever that is and start designing and emailing and let us know. Maybe you can come be on the show and talk about it. We'd love to hear from you.

Zac Miller

That'd be amazing. Yes. And if you want to be on the show, go to our website. Leave us a message. Kimberbellshow.com our phone number. You can leave a voicemail, which is really cool, and then we play them on the show, and it's great. 404-913-6460. Hit us up.

Zac Miller

We love to hear from you.

Kim Gravel:

Hit us up.

Zac Miller

Kim, what time are you on tv?

Kim Gravel:

Love y' all so much.

Zac Miller

What time? People are asking, what time are you on tv?

Kim Gravel:

Nine o'. Clock. Nine o' clock on qvc. Two hours.

Zac Miller

Okay, that's amazing. Check it out, everybody. Bye, y'. All.

Kim Gravel:

Love y'. All.

Zac Miller

Bye.

Kim Gravel:

The Kim Gravel show is produced and edited by Zac Miller at Uncommon Audio. Our associate producer is is Kathleen Grant, the brunette exec. Production help from Emily Breeden and Sara Noto. Our cover art is designed by Sanaz Huber at Lemarian Creative. Our show is edited by Mike Kligerman. Our guest intros are performed by Roxy Reese. Our guest booking is done by Central Talent Booking. Our ads are furnished by True Native Media.

Kim Gravel:

And y', all, I want to give a big, huge thank you to the entire team at qvc. And a special thank you to our audience for making this community so strong. If you are still listening, then you must have liked a few episodes along the way. So tell somebody about it. Tell somebody about this show. Join our mailing list@the Kimberbellshow.com I cannot do this show without me. And so I thank you from the bottom, bottom of my heart for listening. I hope you gain a little bit of encouragement, light and love from watching and listening to the Kimberly show.

Kim Gravel:

I love y' all so much. Till next time. Bye, y'. All.

Kim Gravel:

Zac Miller is the Executive Producer of the Kim Gravel Show. His production company is Uncommon Audio. Our Producer is Kathleen Grant, the Brunette Exec. Production help from Emily Bredin and Sara Noto. Our cover art is designed by Sanaz Huber at Memarian Creative. Our show is edited by Mike Kligerman. Our guest intros are performed by Roxy Reese. Our guest booking is done by Central Talent Booking. Our ads are furnished by True Native Media. And y'all, I want to give a big huge thank you to the entire team at QVC+ and a special thank you to our audience for making this community so strong. If you are still listening then you must have liked a few episodes along the way. So tell somebody about it. Tell somebody about this show and join our mailing list at kimgravelshow.com. I cannot do this show without you and so I thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening. I hope you gain a little bit of encouragement, light and love love from watching and listening to The Kim Gravel Show. I love you all so much. Till next time. Bye.